I cried last night

(deactivated member)
on 9/30/09 5:22 am - ~Somewhere in~, PA

This is not a pity post, but I cried because I was hurt because how can people be so cruel, I cried because god sent me a man than loves me, I have been alone for 4 years, I have had lonely birthdays, lonely Christmases, lonely New Years and finally God blessed me with a man that could care less if I gained 5 pounds, could care less if the pigment of my skin changes in the summer, could care less if my arms are a little flabby....

It hurt me to think people are making fun of my happiness with that comment that I am the main conversation on the BL, I never said I wanted a "good looking man" maybe they misunderstood that I was seeking a GOOD MAN when I was doing online dating...... I am not sure what caused Nate to create that hurtful post about me and my happiness, I thought he used to "joke" about wanting to date me and I just played along with him, and did not want to hurt his feelings... I am not a mean spirited person, so I am not sure why I get attacked on these forums so much, all I want to do is be happy and give support. Am I that much of an impact on folks lives for every word I say is critiqued and criticized?

I feel so bad for Erik coz he is not here to defend himself, he is a gentle giant and he took a risk on dating me, he took a risk on introducing me to his mom, they have never been around black people, but he did not care, he loved me for ME and if his family or friends would not accept me "because I am black; he would not have a part of them, but his mother took me in with loving arms, and treats me like a daughter, something I have not had in years, my mom passed away so his mom is the next best thing...so if you want to talk about me behind my back and the man that treats me like his queen so be it....people like that will never have good luck in life.

Hopefully you feel horrible by embarrasing me and creating a post about my future husband to be, I never did anything to you on these boards, I have never met you and really don't know you so I am not sure why I was attacked like that.

I am going to pray for him...because I know his life is miserable

Kim B.
on 9/30/09 5:29 am - OH

RNY on 02/07/07

Naomi, why do you let this cyber shiot get to you? It REALLY is not that serious for you to cry over. Actually, it's not even serious enough to give it a second thought.

I really think Nate was joking about the post....also about the BL talk. Even if he wasn't SO WHAT!
As long as you are happy, FU$%K everybody else!

***now I'm taking my azz back to lurking***

The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate. - Oprah Winfrey

(deactivated member)
on 9/30/09 5:44 am - ~Somewhere in~, PA

Thanks Kim, I know but I guess the whole post shocked me so until I could not understand why he could create such a post, I know it's not that serious but again, it was hurtful.

Faith *
on 9/30/09 5:34 am

Lap Band on 02/14/07

I responded to you on the other post. I think you simply should have said on his initial post...I am not going to even entertain this...and you should have "walked" away from the post after typing that.

People are so worried about what they eat between Christmas and the New Year, but they really should be worried about what they eat between the New Year and Christmas. ~Author Unknown

(deactivated member)
on 9/30/09 5:45 am - ~Somewhere in~, PA

Thanks Faith I really appreciate your support though this and many other PM messages that I got, by the way, I like your new avatar, looks like things are going great for you guys....

gigilani
on 9/30/09 5:56 am

Just chalk this up as a lesson in how you will handle any future crap that may be thrown at you by friends, loved ones, acquatinces & strangers, because of your IR relatiionship.

Whenever God is blessing the enemy likes to rear his ugly head at you to try to steal your joy/blessings/breathrough that God is bestowing on you. So don't entertain him anymore!

HW:358/CW:242:GW:160

(deactivated member)
on 9/30/09 11:09 pm - ~Somewhere in~, PA

Thank you Gigliani you are a sweetie

I really appreciate your support and words of wisdom especially regarding IR relationships.

(deactivated member)
on 9/30/09 5:58 am

Naomi, you shouldn't even let that get to you. You have found what seems to be a great man, that loves you. By now you should know not everyone out there will like you-I'm sure there are those that don't care for me but you know what? They aren't paying my bills, they aren't important in my day to day life, and they should not be importnat to you either.

Please bask in the happiness of this time of your life and just brush the rest off.