No wonder people have eating disorders!!

So, I'm a little upset right now....Trying to calm my nerves but here is what happened.  Today, I had my first appointment with my OBGYN (male Dr.).. So, He is a new Dr to me and he didn't know me at my heaviest weight.  I tell him my history and he asks me how tall I am. I tell him that I am 5'0 he says..."You should weigh 100 pounds".  I said Excuse me? He said..Yes, if people in other parts of the world can weigh that, you can too...I looked at  him and was just totally appalled that he had the audacity to even say that to me.  I was like "by whose standard is that?".  I will NEVER weight 100 pounds.  Lately, I have been feeling a little bad because it's been a year since my surgery and I have not yet reached my goal.  But I realize that it takes time and it takes a lot of hard work and effort.  So i was already feeling badly but then when this Dr, who does not know me or my history stated that, I almost felt like I was the fat girl again..I almost felt defeated walking out of that Dr's office.  Besides that, he was very insensitive to me as we talked about my 2 "miscarriages" which he stated "your babies died inside of you at 27 weeks..those are not miscarriages, those are deaths...>> I was like Who is this dude??  But I walked out of there thinking, "no wonder our young women and young men, have body image issues and are always attempting to be thin. I am a 5'0 foot African American woman who has no intention of being a size 0.  I just thought it was very ridiculous..Whewww..ok, I'm finished venting now. Thanks for listening!!!

OMG!!  What a JACKASS - um - so  sorry that happened to you.   I had a co-worker have a miscarriage very late into her pregnancy - I grieved with her, but could never understand THAT pain.

I hope your next doctor has a brain!!!  Might be time to find a WOMAN OB/GYN - I never understood why so many men are trusted to be that kinda doc anyway..... ~smh~

He would have caught a foot in the face after that!!! ((((((Rae)))))) Sorry you had to go through that!

I never knew why women grieved for babies they never knew until my Twin miscarriages with one and the next one just stop moving one day.  And she had to carry the baby a few more days before they induced labor.  I feel for the women that have to go through a loss of a baby that they can not come home with.  GOD BLESS YOU AND IF YOU ARE ANYTHING LIKE ME THAT WOULD BE THE FIRST AND THE LAST TIME HE WOULD SEE ME.
 

2 things,  first I am so sorry you had to go thru that.  Secondly, I would report the insensitive ass to your state's medical board.

Report his azz to the medical board!!!! He is a freakin' idot!!!!  I am SO SORRY you had to deal with that sweetie. ((((((huggs)))))) He's an ignorant moran but please, just forgive him (report him first) and let it go and move on, so this does not block your blessings!  Ask God to handle his stupid butt for you! God's wrath and judgement is perfect everytime! 

LET ME AT EM!!!

What a JERK!!!!! Find you another OBGYN. I can't believe he said that to you. 

Girl it is about YOU!! I had a doctor who told me that I needed to be no more that 140 pounds! I'm almost 6 feet tall! Can you imagine? I would look like I was on CRACK! Set a goal for yourself and as long as you are healthy, forget him! About the miscarraiges, I'm sorry he was such a butt-hole! I agree with the other ladies.....report him. There may be some poor soul who is already down and this fool may be the jerk that sends them over! Much love!!!
Teena

I'm so sorry you had to go through that!!  What a jerk!!  Girl, if it were me I'd make sure he didn't get a chance to do that to anyone else... I'd report him the medical board so fast it would make his no-bedside-manner-having head spin!  In addition, I'd go to the local and national media.  I'd write me a letter and send it everywhere, from local news to CNN.  Whew...your story done got me heated!!  Who knows how many people this so-called doctor has injured??  Doesn't that kind of talk violate his hippocratic oath???