OT: Married people and single people CANNOT be friends....

yep - I SAID it!!  LOL  so let's get it cracking today, people

It occured to me yesterday that once mofos get married - they enter into the 'married circle' and single folk are just not fit to be friends with they azzes no mo.

Why?

1 - different interests.  doesn't happen ALL the time, but married mofos don't do the same shiot all the time they did when single and their single friends no longer fit into their pattern
2 - married mofos think they have now discovered why yo azz is still single and set about the task of 'correcting' your issues or telling you what will get you into their circle
3 - depending on who they marry - now they have WAY more money and your single, broke azz can't keep up anymore

I used to think my mom was crazy for immediately dumping friends when they got married - for ONCE I am thinking maybe she's not so crazy...... (don't get excited - that hef***** plenty OTHER issues so she ain't getting a free pass)

What say you??????

Trina, have you been listening in on my phone conversations?  I so could have written this post.  Now you can be friendly, and you can occasionally enjoy some social outings with your married friends but they will never be your 'road dawgs' like they used to be.

I'm the single one in my circle of friends now and there are plenty of get togethers I am simply not invited to.  My marrried girlfriends seem to not be able to leave the house without their husbands in tow or without making plans so they are occupied too.  And the kicker is they now all want to find me someone too, but what they think I should want is not what I am looking for. Lets not forget when we all do go out the married folks don't blink twice at spending hundreds of dollars on dinner out and wine since they have 2 incomes to finance their social activities.

Chile - PLEASE visit the WLS Singles Forum - I am starting a more detailed thread there.

But you and me are on the same dayum page.

I'm about to edit my friends list in my phone and 'rediscover' some folk.  got a homie from HS that I hung out with months ago - she's newly divorced w/2 kids and looking to hang - I think I just found my new BFF.

I always forget OH has a singles board.  I'll have to mosey on over there.

I didn't think it would get so bad with my friends since all 3 couples are childless, but dang-the wives seem to have no identity outside of being Mrs. so and so. 

Hi,,

I say that it depends on the people that you "hang" with.  I had "married" friends,, and single ones.  I guess I could say that I got along with all of them (at a distantance).  I'm not one to
get "too close" with people,, especially "females".  I've never been the "come on over to my
place" type of person.  In fact,, I don't like "females" in my house.  ,,, married or single,, I just
can't get into the "drama" that "some" females" can bring. (I'm sure men can bring their
share of drama too).   IMO,, it seems that nowadays,, everyone wants to "out do,, out own,,
and out buy" each other.  Who has the best ,, the biggest etc.  Stop by your place just to see
what's in it,, what they can talk about.  It's crazy.  Married men looking at their wives "friends",,
with a grin on their face,, and a "dyck thought" in their heads.  And married women walking
around thinking that "my mind would never cheat on me",,   unless he's had his dyck amputated,, or he has some serious erectile dsyfunction,, then he can cheat,, oh,, and lets not forgot that 
tongue action.  

I've always said,, that "any woman that can take my man away from me,, I would shake her
hand and say "thank you",, because you did me a favor.  Let me go help you to pack his **** 

Naw not true.

I was reading a post on FB this morning that a "single" person posted in regards to "dating advice". Now that sort of advice is always funny to me. It is also funny when you see someone in a "raggedly" relationship always offering advice. 

I am so glad I didn't get married until I was in my mid "30's" otherwise I would be single by now. The only difference I have with people now is my "tolerance" level is low, that is more less because of maturity not because I am married.

OBTW having two incomes don't always mean more $$, you just have MORE bills.

I hear you on the folk in raggedy relationship being the first to play Dr. Phil.

and two incomes MIGHT not ALWAYS mean more $$ - but you damn sho got twice the shot at it! 

People in ass-backward relationships give "relationship" advice all the time... Why? I guess they don't see their relationships as raggedy. 

"He/She be kicking my azz on the regular emotionally and physically, but I LOVES me some HIM/HER!!" 

*smdh!*

I'll be a dissentor on this one. 

It may have been true in my 20's or even 30's.  But now that my different circles and I are mostly past 40 and have been married and divorced, some  multiple times, it just does not matter like it used to.  Of course there are always the insecure 'she wants my man' type of  women who I  have never has any use for, even when I'm in a relationship. 

Most of us do ok financially so we go where we want.  That's a matter of kids being out of college so you have some $$$ for yourself again.  There are so many over 40 singles out there your married friends always have men and women to include at gatherings.   The hard part is keeping whoose the current vs whoose the ex straight. 

When I find that special someone, again, perhaps I'll discover the secret over forty happily married three times a charm club they've been hiding to keep us loosers at romance from messing up a good thing. 

I say it can be done.....

My male best friend(since 6th grade) got married to his wife last year. Love her to death she's become one of my best friends as well.

1.We all go out with them I don't mind being a third wheel.

2.We are apart of the same ministry at church so single or married will all have common goals

3. My best friend was over protective(when it came to my date choices) when he was single so I didnt expect him to act any different when he got married. 

4. Single or married we all in a recession in the 313!! No ballers this way so we keep up with each other!!
 

If your true friends know where you stand. There shouldn't be an issue after marriage