People thinking you act differently since weight lose

Hi folks. I haven't posted a message in a while but I had to do this to get other peoples opinions on this topic.
I've had my surgery in September of 08, it will be a year on Tuesday and I lost 125 lbs. I look great and feel great but my family is telling my that i have changed. My immediate reaction was WTF!!! Of course I changed, I have a new attitude, confidence has sky rocketed, and high self esteem. Wouldn't they what to be happy for me and be happy at the fact that I'm no longer big but health  and not ashamed , don't have low confidence and esteem . Why do people especially fam think "Oh all of a sudden since she lost alllll that weight she thinks she is better then everyone". I'm really upset about that. I want to say something to them but don't know what to say without being mean and rude. I'm just hurt.. It seems like people are most happy when your big but tell you " you need to loose weight", then when you do that, you think oh there going to be happy for me.. WRONG!! they try to bring you down again. I'm trying to keep my spirits up but its a hurtful thing when you know who you really are and I was hiding the real me in a fat body for years and now I'M ME again.. but cant be. Please let me know what you all think.
Thanks

Girl we ALL get that if we're successful! You're right you HAVE changed you had to in order to lose the 125 lbs!  I've resolved myself that me changing iss a great thing but its a new person that people have to get used to and honestly, some people (family included) may not want to be a relationship with that new person. Its not a "better than everyone else" more so than a better than I once was which also requires me to reallocate priority of relationships so some people may have gotten offended because I don't hang with them as much as I once
 did because their idea of a good time is *****ing about their life while eating where my good time now is going dancing or shopping or bowling.

Just as we're getting used to this new person so is everyone around us.

It's that "crab in the bucket mentality".  You're doing better for yourself and in the process are a much happier and healthier person.  Just keep doing you.

Sidenote:  There ARE some.....who get the "higher than thou" attitude once the weight is gone, but it's generally not the case, just how others perceive you.

It happens to the best of us.  I have lost some friends/family as a result of my journey. But you know what I say...BYE!  It is sad that people feel the way they do.  Just remember to not allow anyone to steal your joy.

Man **** em. 

Have you changed?  YEP - all the **** you said is right.  And mofos HATE to see a formerly miserable mofo get happy cause now THEY have to face THEIR bull****  It's amazing how you realize you were the 'baseline' for some folk - they actually think 'I'm okay cause I ain't as BAD/FAT/MISERABLE/UGLY or whatever than X person'

THEN you go and change the game and up the baseline - now they have to face their own ****!  Hell yea they pissed!!!!  

I got the same **** from mofos - and told them like Della Resse in 'Harlem Nights'

Kiss my ENTIRE Ass!!!!!!!

 LMBO!!!

They always had you to criticise but now the deck has to be reshuffled and no one wants to land in your old spot. 

Be yourself and know you can't make anyone happy with who you are except yourself.  When the 'you've changed' remarks come just answer Well duh, of course I've changed.  Why are you upset by my success? 

You don't need to explain.  Let the ones with the jealousy issues do the explaining.  Don't be surprised if there are people out there with voo do dolls feeding them cake and hoping you'll regain the weight, lol. 

Thanks all I really needed to hear that change is good and no matter what Im here to make MYSELF happy..no one else. I appreciate all the comments. IM GOOD NOW..  

Yep, I think that's the thing I struggle with the MOST.  Part of me says don't worry about what people say.  Then part says to remain humble.  I do remain humble, but people are watching us through the lens of a magnifying glass just waiting to catch any subtle change.  And when they see the increased confidence, the increased happiness, the first thing out of their pie hole is "he thank he better than eerybody else".  ****** me off too.

your soooo right echo6w. Now im like, Im just going to be me..I dont have time to please people the way I used to. Its about me(you or whoever) riiight now LOL. It wasnt before