I know I am doing wrong but why do I keep doing it

I have been trying not to come to the board and complain because my life is good.  I am really going through at home right now because my family has grown from four to eight.  One of my family members that now lives with me is my FIL who is disabled and in a wheel chair like Christopher Reed was in.  I figured this situation would be hard but is also stressful.  One stress being all the added junk food that is being brought in to my house on the regular by my SIL and her children.  I laided in my bed last night and just thought of all the food I have been sampling since they have been at my home which I would not even be thinking about.  Why can't I control myself.  I workout, get my water in, take my vitamins but I can not seem to pass by the newly added temptations.  The scale is reflecting this also.  Even know I am not gaining I am not really losing either.  So I try to go walking or bike riding to get away from all the yummy  temptations but I find myself sampling all night long on things I should leave alone.  Then I have my SIL and husband constantly giving me diet advice as they stuff their faces.  I am very frustrated I am not doing better any advice how to handle this situation with out making it worse would be appreciated.  I could ask them not to bring the food in my home but I would need my husband support on that and his slogan is he is not on a diet. 

I suppose it would be difficult if these types of temptations were not previously in your home.  How long is your family going to be living with you?  Right now you have stated that they haven't been there that long so you have not gained any weight.  If they are going to be there an extended period of time then I suggest you get it together quick and I know it will be tough.  I would hate to see you sabotage your success that you have had so far.  What are your favorite healthy WLS friendly snacks? IMO, stock up on these and have them in moderation.  You CAN do this!

Right now we do not have a departure date for my SIL and her children.  Hopefully in the next month.  I am going to buy some wls friendly snacks the problem is I will definitely have to hide them it seems anything that goes in the kitchen is free game for the children my children included.  I love fruit, low calorie cheese snacks and fit & active popcorn which is only twenty calories a cup.  I will stock up on those things for healthy snacks. 

I would definitely hide the non-perishables and fruits in my room until I got ready to eat them.  I pray that everythings works out for you real soon.

Girl, I had to have a serious sit down conversation with my family about them eating my food and why it is important that they leave it alone.  I now have a special place in the fridge where I keep my stuff and they don't bother it.

Hi HF!

I know it's rough right now but you really have to try to remain focused with guest in the house. I had a similar issue when my MIL bought the kids back home from summer vacation and decided she would stay for a month. It was very hard for me. When she's home we always cook large meals or go out often; she obviously still wanted to and I found myself nibbling or trying new things that I knew I shouldn't. This may sound really bad but I had to start telling my self.............food was the devil. It seriously helped me. Every time she would offer me stuff.......I would grab my low-calorie snack instead and tell myself........don't do it...............that's just the devil. lol :)

Hope it works for you! Eating is over-rated anyhow.

I really want to get my attitude in check.  I want to eat to live and not live to eat.  Thanks

Hubby may not be on a diet but this is your home too and that must be respected.  You may have to make an unpopular rule, but if you need to limit the junk foods allowed just do it.  Your long term guests have to fit into your lifestyle and not the other way around. 

Let them ***** and talk about you if they want.  As guest they sould be gracious enough to comply or leave (or get put out).  The most freeing thing you can do for yourself is resist the temptation to say yes when no is really what you want.  Family may not like you for it but they will respect you. 

I know I sound harsh but I've been there with relatives.   I'd also bet good money that you always put others first, even if you know they would not reciprocate.  Set your rny friendly foods aside and off limits, period.  This time its all about you making your tool work for you.  Let others adjust.   House guess will leave but you will have to struggle with any bad habits you pick up perhaps for a long time.  

This is one of those times to twist DH's arm until he supports you 100%.   

I totally agree with your response I have to just put my plan in motion.  Believe my my SIL is the type of woman if you do something she does not like she will leave.  Maybe I have nice long enough yesterday one of her sons use my facial products and just left them on the sink.  He did not even ask me in the first place if he could use my stuff.  My husband said say something to him about it  So I am going to put my foot down tonight.  I will be kind but firm. 

When you get the WLS friendly items mark them clearly so that can't say "Oh I didn't know" and if they eat what is yours go grab an item belonging to them open it and throw it in the trash. Then explain to them they can eat anything off the shelf but you are limited. When they choose to eat what is yours they deprive you of that item. So turn about fair play.