Are you teated differently now that you have lost weight?

Don't let the anger get to you.  But I like ya even more when you are telling it like it is and not pulling any punches.

Hope you get it all worked out-I'll quit teasing you...for today.

Yep. When I was big, men were hitting on me left and right and acting like they didn't see my wedding ring and offering to take me to dinner, knowing good and well it would have cost a lot to feed me. Now, not one person has even blinked my way.

I know what y'all thinking and yes I've been married for 20 yrs but it feels good for someone to flirt with me and tell me , that I still got it. Even if it's Barney Fife or Ray Charles ( I can pass his wrist test now) LOL.

Go to Egypt Rita you will get marriage proposals left and right.

I give you 1000 camels, you be my wife

Girl I ain't going to Egypt. It's hot and it's looks scary and I don't want camels. LOL

Ok here is my .02 cents. Yes I have been noticed more. And some have even made comments. But here is the thing. I have changed. I am not the same person I was 5 months ago. I smile more because I am hapy that I can move around more easier and without pain. I am no longer self conscious about my weight. I feel cute in my new clothes. And quite frankly I strut my stuff every where I go. So that being said it doesn't surprise me that people are treating me different. Because quite frankly I feel I am different.

I never get upset about anyone who wants to do anything nice for me or compliment me . I smile even wider and say thank you.  I love it. I don't need anyone to say anything nice to me or do anything nice for me to make my day or complete me. But I still love hearing it

Well said...and I agree!

Hmm....I haven't noticed that at all.  This is just my opinion, but PEOPLE ONLY TREAT YOU THE WAY YOU LET THEM TREAT YOU.  If you have worked there for over 15 years and no one ever took the time out for 'simple conversation'..how could you 'know them like family'?  Could it be that before you had lower confidence/esteem because of your weight?  I think that some post-ops tend to blame how they were treated on 'everyone else' around them - I have lost 130 lbs..but I was the life of the party then, and I'm the same social butterfly now, so no one ever 'treated me differently' because I am not the type of person to stand for that.  Often times, before weight loss surgery people don't know who they really are, and in my opinion, after surgery they start 'noticing' things that were not necessarily the way things were.  Pre-surgery, how social were you? Were you approachable? Outgoing? Did you engage others in conversation? Or did you go to work, hover at your desk/do your work, and stay out of other people's way? People notice things like that, and a lot of that has to do with confidence and personality, and not necessarily with your size.  Maybe YOU didn't notice YOU before...and if YOU don't notice YOU..why the hell should anybody else??? Not trying to be rude, just wanted to give you something to think about.  You see yourself differently now, I'm sure, and that may be reflecting in your disposition (smiling, general happiness) while you are at work.  Sometimes people with issues always want to take the victim role ..'He didn't hire me  cuz I was black' or 'They don't want me working there cuz I'm gay'...umm, no sweetie...you didn't get hired because you are not qualified for the position.  See what I mean?  So I don't think that your co-workers are necessarily the problem...it might be some issues that you need to deal with personally about who you are....don't get defensive about it, just figure out what is going on internally. 

Mill

Interesting post. I am pre op so my input will be limited. I can say that I have a friend who has had lapband sugery and I will ask him if people treat him differently now. I know I treat him the same as before. I can imagine that different people have had different experiences. I was never really overwieght until 2 years ago so maybe when I do have the surgery I wont see much of difference in people attitudes or approaches to me because I will just be going back to where i was 2 years ago. I can understand how you feel tho.  Another close friend of mine played Major league baseballs years ago. When he made it to the majors all types of people  came out of the woodwork that he knew (people that didnt give a dam about him before he made it big). People were trying very hard to claim him as thier friend. He wanted no parts of it. His feeling about it was that these people wouldnt want to know him so bad  if he hadnt made it to the majors. He kept those"types" of people at a distance. I witnessed it first hand how people treated him and I also witnessed him shuting down those shallow people on a regular basis. You have to know you. If it annoys you just shut them down. I dont think you want to be as sharp and stern as my boy was but sometimes you have to put people in check. There are phoney people out here who want to hop on the bandwagon of a winner. Only you truly know who was there for you before your successful weight loss. In my opinion those are the ones you hold on too. The others are just "fans"  Fans are fickle as hell . Some people might enjoy fickle fans . I can see where some people might enjoy fickle fans because of the ego boost it gives them but the truth is I dam sure wouldnt get a boost out anyone coming around me just because I am doing better in anyway. Thats like if I got rich tommorow and all types of women tried to get with me I would know where that enthusiasm (bullcrap)comes from and i would just keep things in persepective.You dont sound like the weight loss has gone to your head and thats a good thing. Keep things in perspective and just realize that some people around you have proven themselves to be shallow. Be pleasant ......you can do that and keep them at a distance at the same time.

I am not treated any differently by people who know me, they have been consistant (thank God). But it's funny......when it comes to attention from the opposite sex, I received more when I was bigger. I think that as a bigger man I stood out more when I walked into a room. Now I'm just like everyone else, lol. Now, I CAN command a room when I want to, but when I was bigger, I seemed to have had more presence.