OT: Dating

Question - should 'seperated' folk be ALLOWED to date?  lol - we all know what seperated MEANS - the mofo is still LEGALLY married.

Now - if there's full disclosure - yeah, you making your own bet.  BUT - it is a foul on the play for a seperated person to present themselves as single?  Can they REALLY consider themselves as such?

*I* say the ISH ain't fair to the party the second if the party of the first is still LEGALLY bound to another mofo.  That's not single.  That's married and out tippin, slippin and dippin.  ETA (due to an interpretation challenge on the floor from Birdman) TECHNICALLY speaking - it's adultery. 

Yo thoughts????  and would YOU date a seperated mofo?  Knowingly?  Would you break up with a seperated mofo that presented themselves as single then had to 'clarify' with you later?

It depends on if they are separated and are in the process of divorce.  If they're just separated and aren't even entertaining the thought of divorce then I say no because obviously they haven't closed that chapter.

Would I date a separated dude?  NO because the first thing out of his mouth will always be "well she IS my wife" and then I'll be on the next episode of snapped!

LMAO @ next episode of snapped!

Ain't THAT the truth!!!!!

Separated and allowed to date??

If that is the case I would have never met my husband, he had only been separated for a few months when we met. Knowing, he was recently separated I went with the flow and didn't press the issue about him being tied down.

With that patience he was divorced within six months of us dating. After dating for 3 years we were married and will be celebrating 3 years of marriage next month.

I MUST add if he would have told me he has been seperated more than a year and haven't started the process of a divorce I would NOT have stuck around.

edited to add: If most women would not put so many stipulations on a person they may explain why their still single. My ONLY stipulation I was not dating a brother with small children.

Good point - if the papers are in front of a judge - it's on it's way to being a done deal.....

I dated my husband while he was separated. They had a pretty bad break he was done with the relationship and so was..but her anger was fierce. He let her get over the anger then they divorced..They divorced about 2-3 months into our relationships..they didnt' have children and were not interested in rekindling anything..

yes it's adultry..He told me off the bat he was married but separted and intended on gettin a divorce soon. Our dating was short lived, he had some deep seeded soul searching to do

broke up for four yrs..got back together and got married six months later..we will celebrate outr5th anniversary come November

I got my first son from a separated man.  When I told him I was pregnant,, he told me he was
married,, said he only came here to Connecticut to get a job and send for his wife and 4 kids.
I told him "good luck",, and walked out his door.  I saw him one more time at a friends house,
my son was 6 months old,, and never saw him again, my son is now 40.

I received a "message" from him when my son was about 6 or 7 years old.  The message was
that he wanted to see his son,, I asked the person why now???.  Well, his wife ran off with some
guy,, and was on their way to Texas, they had an accident and two or three of kids were killed.
I said no,,  he didn't need to become and "instant" daddy to my son.

WOW..... that's some bullshiot!!!!!

Did your son ever know the whole story about what went down?

Yes, I told my son, and told him if he ever wanted to meet him just let me know,
I could hook him up with someone that would know how to get in touch with him.
But my son has always refused. 

...a "legally married"...but seperated person should make it clear of their status...and not "present themselves" as something else...

...i don't think we want to really get into the law of the Bible as it relates to sexual sin.  if we did that...all of us would have to admit and confess that we deserve the death penalty.......(..."even if you look upon one with lust in your mind...you have already commited adultery"...that's the "standard")