Life after WLS

Hi everyone, 

I have been away from sometime...

As of today I've lost 77lbs and I am 197lbs. I feel great and I am finally letting my inner beauty shine. I no longer complain about anything about and I truly feel I have a new lease on life.

Before I had WLS I was a very unhappy and miserable person and I would see others happy and enjoying life and I always wished I could have a piece of happiness. Post WLS I have begun to learn that happiness comes from within. With all that said I have come to see the friends I have are miserable and filled with such hatred and envy (especially those that are dealing with weight issues whether they want to admit it or not). All of my heavy friends in one way or another have made a negative comment about my weight loss. People I guess feel compelled to comment on my weight loss but half the time its either forced or accompanied with an insult. For instance Wow Dawn you've lost so much weight you look great but you may want to get a shaper for you stomach. Or You look so great, but when are you getting in the gym. Now I know my stomach jiggles (as my mom says lol) but who cares....its not like im running around with my belly out or exposing my body. I couldnt walk pre WLS... I am blessed that I can walk, climb stairs, and wear heels. It even comes from family members as well (part of the reason why I stay away)...I am no longer the fattest relative....now those that may have been 20 pounds lighter than me (pre WLS) are pushed into the spotlight and feel the need to say negative things to me (I guess to make themselves feel better). 

I am not one that is throwing my weight loss up in people's faces or thats all I talk about...I am just a happier person in general...I traded in the sour face for a smile...I have an optimistic view on life instead of thinking that world is against me.

I was just wondering am I alone with this or has anyone else experienced this.

All your feedback is greatly appreciated...

DANG LONG TIME NO C. IM HAPPY YOUR JOURNEY IS GOING WELL.

Hey Middleman....

I know I've been MIA for a while, but I'm back LOL

How have you been?

IM GOOD GLAD TO C YOUR JOURNEY IS GOING AWSOME. YOU ARE LOOKING GLORIOUS

Lady Red u look Fabulous..I am on the journey with you! Experiencing the same things. A lot of my friends feel Obligated to say something..while others say something instantly! its awkward and lonely at times.

But I'm enjoying my weight loss progress so much, it doesn't bother me...take it from me, U LOOK GREAT!!! u go girl!

I've dealt with this and many others BAF's who have friends that really deep down inside wish they could lose the weight we've lost has or is still dealing w/this. It's a jealousy issue, even those related to you. My sister was -the main person that would tell me I had the WLS look. I don't know what look she talkin' bout because if you didn't know me, you wouldn't even know I had surgery....the she had found out she had diabetes and lost all this weight and looked worst, hell she had the WLS look w/o having it! So, you just have to love you and not worry about those who inside is really unhappy w/ themselves!

Thanks Philly Diva...

Misery loves company and all my friends seem to do is complain...noone is thankful for anything. It makes me think was i really this bad pre WLS...I really dont want to be around negative ppl anymore.

You go girl!!  I have lost 60 pounds and my in-laws have said NOTHING!!  No matter what, my SIL has never even asked "Are you losing weight?"  I know that it is noticeable, because people at church are always saying something.  I feel you on the "now I'm not the fattest person here" thing.  Not that they are heavy, but you would think I could get some encouragement from them.  They are quick to tell my husband (their brother) that he's gaining weight on my cooking, but says nothing to me.  I'm not worried though.  They can enjoy their haterade....  You hang in there and don't let them rain on your parade - who needs it!!!

Seems like wls lead to some real eye openers for you.  Congratulations on your insights. 

No, you are not alone. I believe we all have/will experience it. My family is now pissed because I keep saying I need to lose 50 more pounds....my sister told me that it was an insult to keep saying that knowing I've lost 80 but that's just honestly how I feel.

Hang in there - to be honest - i don't even talk about WLS other than this site.