OT: Relationship Monday - when are you coming on too strong?

Morning peoples!!!!  Man - today is gonna be rough - was babygirl's first day at her new school and she slept ALL of 3 hours last night!!!!   I am gonna be a tired mofo this afternoon.....

So - anyhoo - I'm wondering - what's coming on too strong in a relationship?  In the beginning - there's always that 'corner' you gotta turn, tryna figure out if you are in love.... if that mofo is too..... what should you say or not say.... should you make up a pet name or WTF do ya do and WHEN should ya do it????

Now - goes without saying that I love you on the first date is ummm - STALKERISH!!!  But after a couple weeks.... a month or two......

I'm a risk and reward calculating mofo.... I gotta be PRETTY sure (95% or greater chance) that whatever IMMA say, THAT mofo gon say too - I hold my cards CLOSE to my vest, show no signs of weakness and RETREAT at the first sign lack of reciprication...... however - it's dawned on me (actually told to me) that I appear to be aloof and a bit cold....   Moi?  Jamais!!!  I'm a heart on my sleeve type chick (yea, for REAL you mofos!) but I wear 4 shirts, 2 jackets and 2 scarves over that sleeve.....

So - speak on it!!!  Holla at cha girl!!!! 

I am so glad you asked this and I am awaiting the responses to this question because I might need to know in the near future.

CHICKEN!!!!!!  don't be piggybackin my post - ask your OWN dayum questions!!!!  LMAOOOOO

Hey Ma.

First day of school . . . my son started last week and asked for 5 more minutes on the first day.  LOL  No jitters for him. 

I'm usually cool unless I want to run a brotha off.  If I'm not sure how I feel or what I want to do, but would rather he just go . . . that's when I press for "where is this thing going".  It's classic passive aggressive behavior and I need help!! 

Conversely, when I'm in, I'm alllllll the way in.  I love hard and strong, and I want the same thing in return.  First sign that I'm not getting it, then like you, I'm in retreat mode. 

Hey Mack, I would say NO do not tell someone you love them on the first date, typically if a guy is REALLY into you like that, you WILL KNOW IT...just let nature takes it course, you have to get to feel the person and see if they are having the SAME vibes as you are, some guys are strange and will freak out if you tell them you LOVE THEM too quick..LOL and back away thinking you are desperate or have something to hide or after something..

The first thing is chemistry --first talk ALOT get to know each other and then when you start talking about intimacy then you can sort of feel how the guy is "feeling you"....if he REALLY LIKES OR LOVE YOU and REALLY into you he WILL NOT FREAK OUT if you tell him how you feel about him as early as 1 month of dating....if you is a PLAYA...and just playing..LOL...then he will have NO interest in LOVE or being in love...this way you will know to keep on truckin to the next one IF you are looking for a long term relationship or marriage.

that's the thing dude - we GOT history.  I think we are both playing 'naw, YOU first'!  LMAOOO

My son starts his junior year in college on Thursday.... Don't miss those days of having school age children at home...

To answer your question...

1)Mofo wanted you to meet his momma after dating for a few weeks.
2)Talking about living together and spending the rest of your lives together after only a few weeks.
3)Blowing your phone up all day, just to hear your voice and never want anything. (Don't get me wrong my hubby and I talk several times a day always have BUT that didn't happen until after some time).
4) If you go a day OR several hours without calling he wants to know where you been and who have you been with?

Let me think of some more will update this post, as I think of them.

Mack you hit the nail on the head with this......when the feelings& actions are not being reciprocated that should be a clear sign that he is "just not that in to you".
Perception is reality and actions speak louder than words!!

^5 my dawg!!!!

My saying is "I listen to words for entertainment - I look at actions when I want TRUTH"