RELATIONSHIP QUESTION #2 ***** STAY OUT MY MARRIAGE

Girl! I'm in my LIFE'S TOO SHORT FOR DA BULL**** mode...and will (more than likely) STAY THERE FOREVER! The good thing is...my baby knows, understands AND RESPECTS where I'm coming from...and loves me for it - so, I think I'm safe where he is concerned!  Besides, he probably is thinking to himself (((make sure I don't do ANYTHING EVER AGAIN to **** with this one...SHE AIN'T THE SAME 'AFTER DINNER MINT' I ONCE KNEW!  THIS HEFFA DONE WENT ****TAIL-APPETIZER-FULL COURSE MEAL-DESSERT ON MY ARSE!!!))) Bwahahaaaa!

I'm jes sayin'!!!

Donna,  I swear I wish I could show this thread to her dumb ass, but then I will be called the trouble maker again.    I swear people need to wake the hell up and realize if they don't do something to protect their marriage then people will walk right in and take it away from their ass. 

But i'm gonna keep my mouth shut cause my other friend keeps telling her not to listen to me cause i'm telling her selfish info and she should not tell her girlfriend to give up this woman that is cause her so much pain and trouble with her marriage. 

What the hell ever,  I don't even know if you guys can follow that but i'm the bad guy in it. 

Lee...so here's what you do: STAY OUT OF IT!  And if your friend comes to you, talking about it some more...LET HER KNOW THAT YOU DON'T CARE TO HEAR IT! That way, and hopefully, your friendship remains intact and you won't be considered the "bad guy..."

Some folk just don't want to know when they are in deep **** - until it's too late.

DD

Ok I gotta ask why is it that people have such a hard time with the concept of EVERYONE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND. I don't know how many times I had to tell my friends this in recent coversations. Just because a person is cool and nice, fun to hang around with. That does not qualify that person to be your friend.  If we can't take this one lesson with us in life I really do not know what to say.

As for your friend Lee what she should be questioning is why this "new" friend on the block is causing problems in her relationship. A "true" friend would automatically fall back and stay in their lane if they saw that they were causing problems in their friends relationship.

I will give you an example. I have two best friends who both have husbands at different time's in life have developed issues with me. I never made my friend choose between me and them even though I have known them longer. I do not disrespect or talk about their husbands to them.  I played my roll and stayed in my lane. In the end both husbands now don't have a problem with me. And always tell their wives how its nice they have a true friend in me. We are adults now and its time out for that high school drama. When your in a relationship your first loyolty lies with your significant other period.

ktjajj I am so done with these fools I told both of them i'm done and don't want to hear no mo. 

Gurl this whole post is ingnant! LOL. Just kidding. Seriously I believe in a committed relationship your spouse, fiance, boyfriend/girlfriend whateva comes first. If you do not feel comfortable w/ their relationship than it is NOT appropiate. A woman always recognizes when another *itch is trying to ease her way in. Let's go ahead snap for the kids and nip this ish in the bud.

Lee I find that people that don't have their own business to mind mind yours. Your friend is making a big mistake from my own experience I had a friend that i fed 2 much personnel info and I be dayum if they didn't become lovers and the shiot was a desater in the end and I was the last to know. What I do now if they start asking or hinting about my personnel business i ask them why and the friends i have now including her know not to cross that boundary because go from normal to rage i ain't having it today please believe there is a motive she wants one of them. as the saying goes keep your friends close and your enemies closer and all that grin is not your friend.  There is a motive please believe that dayum home recker.

Hi Nieceb

I have stepped away from the entire thing.    I am sick of the mess so I wipe my hands.

Good that was a smart move because shoit has a funny way of affecting our lives and it don't have nothing to do with us you made a wise decision to stay out of it and stop letting them feed you information about it let them have all of it and cut all conversations about it even if you do want to hear or respond don't do it man you guns and keep your peace.