RELATIONSHIP QUESTION #2 ***** STAY OUT MY MARRIAGE

Like-ens I had done SAID.... I wish a MOFO WOULD come between me and being able to split a dayum payment!!!!!

ain't no good friend of MINE or HIS causing a DAYUM THANG in OUR relationship.... PERIOD!!!!

I'll catch that hoe with some hot grits like my Aunt Lucille did Uncle Essex..........

My hubby has a friend I cannot STAND.
 
However, that relationship does not interfere with our marriage because we don't allow it....the same goes for a trifling family member.

The only way a person could cause problems in our relationship would be if my hubby or myself was sharing personal information with the other people.

The one strong thing I can say about my marriage is my hubby is as private as myself what happens in our home STAYS in our home. less problems and conflicts down the line.
 

Rhonda, Rhonda, Rhonda

You hit the nail on the freaking head.   This chick shares personal info and talks about her girlfriend all the time.   

But i'm done now,  I am drama free and this mess is annoying me.

Okay, here's my litmus test:

1. Are you paying my bills?
2. Are you snoring in my face?
3. Are you making the cush moist?

If they can't answer yes to all three, then the hell with them.

***DID I REALLY TYPE THAT???***

3. Are you making the cush moist? 

AMEN SISTAH

Girl - hole up

If you got #1, Imma let you slide on #2 and I'll buy KY for #3!!!!!  Heyl, the THOUGHT of my mortgage statement coming saying PREPAID got me all hot and bothered!!!!! 

Wonk & Mama you guys are too funny! & Rhonda you have hit the nail on the head. I've been married for almost 10 years & I know you can't let your friends in your business. My husband used to be a little leaky with infomation but he has since learned.

Omg ya'll are off the hook over here...Cush lol but, ditto to everybody else..Keeps the friends and relationship stuff separate.

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Lee...from MY EXPERIENCE...long response...but I gotta tell it! LOL!

I believe it depends on the cir****tances.  I had a brother-in-law (my almost ex-husband's brother) who absolutely could not STAND me (well, hell, the feelings were mutual - he disgusted me in EVERY WAY - because he was an abusive SOB..who BEAT his wife whenever he felt like it - even as she was battling/dying from breast cancer - ol' *******!)...Oops...excuse me - back to the question.

Let me tell you - after the FIRST time I left my husband, and as we were going through marital counseling, I explained that I had a problem with his family ALWAYS interfering in our marriage.  His brother would call our house - whenever I answered the telephone, he would slam the phone down...this **** used to IRRITATE me to no end.  I would tell my husband about it and he would have the NERVE to take up for that idiot...I warned him to be very careful allowing his family to interfere/step into our household and marriage...told him they needed to be kept in their places/stay in their lanes.  Well, he listened to the lies his brother spewed about me (that I was screening my husband's phone calls...I hung up on him - say what?!...and my husband believed him).  It was at that point I lost all respect for my husband - especially when he took a known liar's word over his wife.  I was DONE!

I never forgot about it, Lee...as a matter of fact, the mere fact that my husband insisted on allowing his brother to interfere and upset my household - is one reason I decided to leave his ass again...this time for good!

So now, I am in the midst of a divorce...due to folk all up in my kool-aid...and other reasons (self-esteem on his part)...and now that we are no longer living together and divorcing, NOW he sees where he made his mistake! To top that off - his brother doesn't even LIKE him....they no longer speak.  Oh yeah, even my husband's best friend took up for ME when my B-I-L tried to talk about me to him - he wasn't having it...and the B-I-L hasn't spoken to him since - it's been 2 years!

KEEP OUTSIDERS OUT OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR SPOUSE...PERIOD! That includes momma/daddy/sisters/brothers...ER'BODY! Now, of course, if you are being abused by your spouse or SO...then that is different! If your spouse/S.O. has any LEGITIMATE reason for not liking the person...listen to them! Bring them both together if you have to...but LISTEN TO YOUR MATE!

THAT IS ALL!

DD