After WLS-Self-confidence with the extra skin?

After weight loss surgery, how do you embrace yourself or gain that self confidence with all the extra skin?  I have lost 78 pounds and now I have a flabby thighs and arms, back fat-  I do exercise but there is just some things that are not going to go back into shape unless you have plastic surgery which I can't afford right now.
 I am now very self conscience about all of this- how can I just not worry and embrace the new me.  I do have to wear a body shaper everyday just to feel and look good.. 

Just know that you are not alone.  It was hard for me as well to have the self-confidence with the extras here and there.  I pray that you will be able to have the PS soon. 

I am really becoming self conscience because we are going to the beach Labor day weekend.  And I keep thinking about my saggy thighs - the rest I can cover up.  lol

I've always used a wrap/ pareo (spelling?) aound my hips for going from poolside/ beachside into the bar or hotel.  I've seen many women keep their hips covered all day.  QVC.com had these and some pull on skirts for matching swimsuits as coverups too.  You distract the eye from the problem spots but you don't look like you're hiding. 

Sharon, try to wear some surfing shorts. They are baggy and are a little on the long side.

Get in front of your mirror and tell yourself how fine you are. Get your self confidence on!!!

I know how you feel Sharon.........

I need plastic's bad !!    My thighs are hanging like jello !

I know exactly how you feel. My mother is always quick to point out the flabby arms..and if she wasnt my mother I would tell her off. For example, I was trying on this cute short sleeve top. In my head  .i was thinking I would wear the shirt and layer it...However, my mother Instead of comlimenting the shirt she tugs at my arm and said...Now what about this... I was so pissed OOOOOFFFFFFF. I told her you dont need to point out my faults, I know them very well. You see as a young teenager I suffered from ecezma on my legs...real bad. So for ten years or better, I didnt wear shorts, I didnt wear skirts because of the rash. As I got older the skin cleared up some but ,by all the steroid medication I was using some parts of my legs are slightly discolored.. About five years ago, I decided that I was sick of covering my legs and hiding between pants because of the eczema.....i became comfortable with it and realized, Heyl the rash could have been all over my face and I thank God that it was just on my legs. My mother she wants me to put make up on my legs and etc...I am sure in a few years if i dont have plastic surgery, I am going to feel the same way about my arms...Now that I lost the weight I am stuck, hiding my arms..I cant wear the cute sundresses, that I LOVE and etc...You see according to society my legs arent perfect, now my arms arent...I guess Im just sick of covering up... I went shopping with my mother and she is the one that makes me feel so self conscious... I need to stop going with her....Every shirt she wanted me to try on in 90 degrees weather was 3/4 sleeves or long sleeves..I am at the point where I just dont care any more just as long as I look nice heck.

I've never liked my arms since I've put on weight.  So now you no I don't like them for sure, I always where 3/4 sleeves just have a few no sleeves.  I'm hoping to start looking in to PS soon I have been thinking of PS before I start with the RNY surgery.
I had a hysterectomy there was the stomach and it has never gone. I could walk circle around other but it never went away so you no what I've got now. Just started having any self confidence since surgery.