OT What would you do?

Mothers’ involvement makes things a little more complicated, doesn't it?  

Being passive aggressive sometimes is a useful tool.  

If you happen to see her out somewhere, be cordial but that’s it.  Stop calling her.  Whenever she calls you, be too busy to talk right now.  If she leaves a message, forget to return it.  If she invites you to go somewhere, have other plans.  She’ll eventually fade out of the picture and moms' relationship isn't affected by any fallout.

In the meantime, get out of the house and do things that you enjoy.  You'll meet some new people and before you know it, you'll be feeling better.

When I was young I had a "real" cousin just like this in my life.  She constantly made sure I knew she was smarter, skinnier, more out-going, longer hair, more popular, etc than me.  I would talk to her and feel like crap everytime I did. 

I finally around 15 years old realized that she was a complete biotch and stopped takling to her,  I just all of a sudden got real busy and found other people to spend time with that didn't make me feel like crap, but before I stopped spending so much time with her she had screwed up my self esteem so bad I felt like crap everytime anyone even mentioned her name.

Kicking her out of my life was the best thing I ever did.

Wow Hugga

I just went thru something similar.   I posted about it not too long ago.  I had a so called friend who I felt just never gave me the same respect I paid her.  I held her in a special place in my heart  because she was my best friend in junior high. How silly of me to think that she held the same sentimental value ???   Sometimes loyalty can be a burden girlfriend, if you let it be.  Especially when the other person dosent feel the same or cant reciprocate the genuine-ness.  

Long story short -  I recently let her go......and though I miss her at times.......I dont miss the way she made me feel.

I agree with what Drea said...just because someone was in your life as a child, dosent mean they get a free pass to stay.  As adults Ive learned  ( the hard way ) that people have to earn the right to be in your up close and personal space. Everybody else is just a meer acquaintance.  

 You  owe it yourself to protect  and nuture your whole being.  You dont have to cut the ties completely, like I did if your not comfortable with it......but  you can put a healthy distance from this person. Make the association on your terms and draw up a boundary line because sadly enough some people dont  know to treat us with full access. All they know how to do is use and abuse. 

Best wishes !