Would you tell someone they need shapewear?

HF,  your heart is in the right place.  However in today's world,  people are stressed, touchy and sensitive and would perhaps read something else into it.  Feeling can easily be hurt in these days.

Is it just me but I get a vibe that some of us are forgetting that we...well (some) of us were jiggling,spilling, and straight up looking sloppy. I think the question we need to ask ourselves would we like for someone else to walk up & tell YOU that you needed to wear a pair of spanx. Now if it was coming from a close co-worker or a family member I wouldn't take it to heart. Just MY opinion.

Did you go to school in Rosedale? Martin Van Buren?

No, I went to an all girl catholic hs. My sister however went to MVB.

Me too. hmmm Stella Maris, Sacred Heart Academy, Mary Louis, or Dominican Commercial?

I guess it all depends on how you both get along, if you and her are good friends then I would mention it in a "good" way by say this is what "you" wear to help you look more firmer in your clothes, if she is not a close friend of yours.... I personally don't think it is appropriate for you to confront her. (just my opinion).

No, don't say anything.  I know you want to help, but don't.


P.S.  Those same people are probably talking behind your back also; there are some people that are always looking for ways to tear others down.

I so agree

And so do I. Once you say something to her, she gonna go right behind your back and tell somebody else what you told her, but make it sound tens times worse. She also gonna throw in, "ANd that biotch got a nerve to talk about me! With her so and so!!! Started losing weight and think she the damn be all and know all of fashion! BIOTCH!!!!" or something to that effect. lol. Leave it alone girl! Who aint never heard of shapewear anyway? I mean geez, at least everybody know what a girdle is. She probably think she looks fine or doesn't like the way shapewear feels.

NO way - NO how ...would I say anything. 

I might think it...but never would I say it,  cause I wouldnt want it said to me.

People are sensitive and that breeds defensive behavior. 

Im speaking from what I know,  about how I feel  when certain things are said to me.

We have to remember to put ourselves in other people's shoes before we do and say things.