Are Black Men MORE prejudice when it comes to dating regarding skin color?

I have had men approach me strictly for my skin color.  They didn't care how I lived or what came out of my mouth... purely skin color and that was an automatic turn off for me.  I never had a preference for skin color in men...I looked for who was attracted to me.   I have never dated a white man because they always approached me in a sexual manner.  I don't like black men approaching me that way and I certainly don't like white men who do the same.  Across the board standards...

I used to do online dating before I got married.  Met a guy and he said he expected me to be Creole based on my description.  I never said I was Creole... my description was accurate... he had some crazy mess going on in his head.  Makes me wonder what he would have done if the woman was a dark skinned Hatian Creole.  
 
Another guy saw my picture online and we started emailing and talking over the phone.  He was attracted to me based on my picture and personality.  So we are talking and he makes comments about my parents... I didn't quite understand what he was getting at so I asked.  He wanted to know which one of my parents was white.  I said neither.  He said Oh... I thought one of your parents was white... never heard from dude again. 

Some men do have hang ups.  That's why I have always asked upfront what is your physical type because we don't need to be wasting each other's time.  If you like dark skinned women... don't waste my time.  If you like women with a big butt...I'm not your girl.  I met this one guy who wanted me to cut my hair because he liked women with short hair.  I don't look good with short hair so you need to keep moving.  If you like women with small boobs... keep moving.  I don't need anyone who doesn't appreciate all my gifts as is. 
Then there are those special men I dated who liked me because I looked like their mother.  That is more unstandable regarding attraction IMO.  If the most important woman in their life had a particular skin color it makes sense for them to favor it.  I don't have a problem with that. 

Women should be honest with themselves too... if you are not physically attracted to someone don't waste their time. 

 

See..this is the kinda stuff that makes me sick dating someone JUST BECAUSE OF THEIR SKIN COLOR, I know we ALL have preferences on the "type" of men/women that we are attracted to and that is our prerogative...lol this is a free country we can date and pick the person that we are attracted too, but it makes me ILL when I see men or women that ONLY SEEKS a certain color or race if that matters, I don't say I ONLY DATE VERY DARK MEN or VERY LIGHT SKINNED MEN OR WHITE MEN, I try to date the PERSON and see if there is any substance there and what their background is like and then we can move forward and it's by the way OH...you are dark or light or white..lol.

 I have had men on Match ask me if I am mixed, or I look "exotic" I get that from black men and white men and the the brothas  but I had that one brotha question my skin color and in all my adult years I have never had that happen to me before and it was the MOST ignorant thing to say, but again he as from a small town in Georgia and probably did not know any better..lol But again this SAME guy told me that MEN only program computers, he look beyond the fact that I made way over 6 figures a year he was only interested in my skin color (what a dumb ass) I guess he could live in shack and beg for bread as long as he had very high yella light-skinned black woman but then again he should have caught me during the months of December thru February when I am high yella....

 I agree with what you are saying about men looking for certain types, light, dark, big butts, big breast, long hair etc, but that's OK, we all are different and have different tastes, but when it comes to picking women ONLY for skin color that draws the line with me...

 

for me i'm caramel and I have been approached by them all. I was married to a light skinned brotha and for some reason that has turned me off from light skinned brothers. I know I should not judge a brotha on my past history but that's just me. I'm interested in someone who is my skin toned or darker. Now would I date a white man IDK depends?????

How in da hail are you gonna jack my post/thread right from under my azz and not even give me credit for bringing up the discussion in the first place? 

That's it.  No Christmas present for you this year. 

Oh HURSH!!!!

you know good and dayum well you don't give presents!!!!!!

"Boop Boop Be-Doooooooom... "



Dayum!  Foiled again...

Ok...it looks as if you are NOT GONNA TOUGH this subject and that's ok I still wub you, I did not mean to hijack your post I guess we had sort of the same thing on our minds this morning

Aiight den.  Since you put it that way. 

Oh how can I stay mad at you, Puddin?!? 


Being a darker-skinned brotha I find that it's almost an expectation by most people that my tastes should be for the lighter skinned sista or a woman who is white.  Not so.  I look at your boobie size first; then the rump-roast in the back; and then I stroll over and kick da ballistics.  Whah?  I do. 

I don't think I ever really got caught up in the whole light-skin/dark-skin debate.  However, I do remember being in several "SNAP" battles (whatever the word was in your area for shooting verbal jabs back and forth at one another - The Dozens, crackin, hikin, etc... ) as a kid and my opponent(s) would either automatically think that he/she won simply because they said, "You black..." or they would go into the battle under the assumption that since I was darker I would get frustrated and lose easily. 

NO! 

Word soon got around that I could care less about being dark and also, that I would rip you a new a$$hole if you Entered the Dragon with me in cracking on people and you'd leave the dojo crying.  

But I digress...

In my book, a dark woman is just a pretty as a lighter-skinned or white woman.  No problem there.  But I do have problem with midget women.  Y'all know why... 

It's good to hear you are a good man A...I admire you for that, there is nothing wrong with having attractions for different types of women. I think I live in the WRONG state to find good looking black men...lol, I don't have time to venture into New York, or ATL or California where all the FINE brothas are...SO....what's up with midget women ...DO TELL...

Midget women???  Oh that's easy...  I can't stand anybody breathing on my fly unless they are serious.