Who did you TELL?

@Mskim.. Congrats on the up and coming wedding..

and I sooo get that. I usually go home (to CT) once a yr I have been for this yr already but I probably won't go next yr..so if I have the surgery by then..no one from home would see me unless they come visit me

I actually told damn near everybody...Now that I am getting closer to goal I am more reserved... On my FB I posted pictures and people from high school kept asking me how and I told them diet and exercise but other than that I am VERY open and proud of my decision...

Hey Mommy Welcome!!!

I'm pre WLS as well but I seem to tell alot of people I've had pretty positive feedback but I have ones that I am not telling.


My dad, mainly because I don't want him to worry and I don't need his negative comments

One of my sisters because she has a big arse mouth and would tell my dad!! Plus she is a HATER!!

Told one of my boos, he got all in secure about it! *Note to self no more insecure MEN*

*I did have one boy at my church  tell me "Oh that's taking the easy way out" I went off so hard his ancestors heard me!!!!

My support system
My Pastor, Got to have my leader keeping my prayed up!!!!!!
My mom, she's already had the surgery in 07
My step mom, she is keeping it from my dad too
Most of my best friends
Co-workers
few of my Facebook friends
AND BUT OF COURSE   BAF ALL DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

welcome aboard!

Each person handles it different.  I only shared with those with a need to know basis.  previous weigh loss attempts had allready led to some pretty ignorant comments from "friends".  So, I kept it close to my vest.  why?  Because I bat an ignorant comment like a fly, but pre-op is stressful enough without putting myself in a position to battle ignorance.  So do what's best for you.  Everyone is not going to be happy for you, so you are handling it the way I did.  

I did tell a few friends at work, my last day, after work & swore them to secrecy.  Well, one forgot to not only keep her mouth shut, but also what type of surgery I was having.  So, when I got back a lot of people asked how my knee surgery went!

I had no problem sharing after I returned to work & immediately people reinforced my decision, as the ignorant comments & questions started immediately.

I told everybody except for my bosses at work. Welcome to BAF. Good luck on your journey.

Brenda

I told anyone and everyone that would listen. I got a little negative feed back, and when I did I just told them "I didnt ask you how you felt about it." I am a very open person, and I will answer any and all questions, but when you judge me...thats where I draw the line and tell you to kiss my a$$.

A lot of my negative comments have come not that I have lost almost 75 lbs. At first I had a hard time with the women that were making comments about "how I think Im all that", and "how I think Im cute." Thanks to my BAF Family I got over that real quick. So now my response to them is "I thought I was cute before, and you must agree or you wouldnt be talking about me." Shuts them down real quick...I have been called a ***** plenty of times. LOL! Oh well.....ILL BE THAT!!!

I've been very open about it, but the people in my circle are either very supportive or treat it as simply a matter of fact.  Were my parents still alive, I would never have told them.  I would expect negativity even though they would believe it was support.  Some types of support you just don't need. 

The standard ignorance of thought about weight regain and the need for wls at all prevail with aquaintances in food situations where I don't eat.  However, I could give a rats ass about the opinions of these misinformed strangers. 

I just discussed it with my 13 yo today..told him I was "thinking" abou tit..and his sawed behind had the nerve to try and  get indignant..lol "oh I don't agree with that.. something doesn't seem righ about having surgery to lose weight..something might happen"... I almost preached his funeral until he fgot  to "something might happen" then I realized he was talking out of fear..so I got  off my soap box and explained to him..

but my hubby is the main one I talk abou tit with. When I called my insurance and found out they covered it 80% I was elated.. shoot I'll pay the 20% it's what ever.. I called him like we came into some serious money.. "Bay Bay.. guess whaaaat, we in now baby".. he was like "tell me already"..lol

Ok y'all know i"m a little green..and new.. please tell me what BAF stands for.. I hope I don't have egg on my face or anything ..like I laughed at my sister when she asked me what "lmao" meant.

Hey Mommy and WELCOME to BAF!!!!!!!

I told 2 aunts, my husband, my 2 children and 1 friend.
I didn't have the energy for negativety ... so I just told the
ones that understood my plight and would give me support.
It was all about me, so I didn't want to have to educate the
nay sayers..... I was the one that needed support.  You know
who the people are that can see your vision.

The best to you and many blessings on your wls journey!!!!