OT - That's what "friends" aren't for...

  and make that a blue dress.

But I wonder what takes us so long to realize that these azz-monkeys don't really have our best interest at heart?  Can anybody pull my coat on that one? 

cuz maybe it's not so obvious?  your real friends, they're sheep and they look like it.  imitators, they're wolves and they look like it.   frenemies are a little more complicated,  they're wooly looking and they graze and say baaaah and stuff, so ain't nobody checking for sharp bicuspids, hayle they look like sheep.   then as time goes by, you find tufts of fur where they've just been, the baaahs are forced and have more bass in em, got chicken feathers stuck in their teeth instead of grass.  in my life it has taken so long because, amongst other things, i'm a cancer, we're heart-driven so i'm always stuck on why anybody would willfully invest time and fellowship to be anything less than a real friend.  the best i could come up with is because that may be the maximum that some folks are capable of.   meet em where they are or leave em alone.





 

As a writer, you know I love the analogies.  Like the poets KC and the Sunshine Band once said, "Keep 'em coming, Luv."

Frenemies, me doth think, is the one word that describes them best.   Those bastids...

I am my mother's child when it comes to dealing with people - I never trust that I have absolute TRUE friends - I've always been disappointed in some way, shape, form or fashion - so I view folk as 'hampsters' of sorts - I know their limitations and capabilities, so I can 'play' with them at will and choose when to let them out of their 'cage' or simply ignore them.

I'm actually a hermit at heart.  And will look everybody with a sideline glance as I ponder, "What's your angle, ninja?"

MarloT 
You are right in that it's all that some people are capble of doing.  They don't know how to be a good friend.  Everyone doesn't mature at the same rate or they just stop maturing at age 12. 

Double Ayy.... Cut them loose.  It takes too much time and energy to deal with those kind of folks. 
I had a friend who used to love when her friends were down and out.  If you had troubles in your life she was the best friend you could ever imagine... she was gleeful helping you out of a bad situation.  But when you had good times... she was looking for a way to take you down or hating on you.  That heifer also kept files on everyone as in blackmail information.  I made sure she never got anything on me but it was tiring always having to hide stuff from a so called friend.  I cut her off when she tried to hold something of mine hostage to get  me to do something for her.  She wanted a ride to an airport which was 3 hours away one way.  I would have given her a ride to the airport if she asked but she wanted to hold something hostage to get me to do it.  I cut her clean off at that moment. 

I only have 1 "true" friend here on earth who I would trust with my deepest darkest secrets.  Other folks in my circle are just associates and acquaintences.  I'm a very private person and don't really share personal things with a whole lot of people so I rarely get caught up in the situations you speak of.  I pretty much keep to myself....less stress that way.

I have very low tolerance for BS... Not sure it was one of those things I picked up after WLS, but my tolerance level is very small.

I will cut a joker off in a second and walk by your azz laying on the street and will step over you as if I didn't see you there.

Hmmm...  But what would Jesus do?

wow. you ARE mean, Rhonda.  lol. 

Not mean just low tolerance. I am one of the most loving and giving person you ever want to meet however when I feel that kindness is being taken advantage of LOOK OUT!!!