OT-How do you handle this situation???

Rhonda you have no idea. I was fuming. I was so mad. I wanted to cuss them out so bad. But I was standing in front of god's  house. And I am already a heathen I didn't want to add to it.

i'd say it even if i hadn't laid eyes on you myself miss face.   wunna my ride or dies tambout self worth:   

people with a permeating spirit of accusation say terrible things to other people because they're projecting, it's the worst of what they believe about themselves turned outward.  B talking:  the only thing that could make his opinion valid, the only way he or anyone else could hurt you is if you made him important drea.  he's not important gurl. 

back to ride or die text: it starts with seeing your value and coming to the realization that you're priceless because God loves you and you know it.  when you come to fully see and accept that a perfect all knowing being who knows everything about you loves you so much it makes Him weep, you'll carry this like you would a shield.  Someone, not just any ole body, someone who is perfect, loves ME.  
back to B talking:  coulda saved you some reading by asking you to adopt the mackmama/celie method -just help the nut out.  he says you're ugly and if you feel compelled to say anything, agree with him:  you know what you left out bruh? i'm black, i'm poor, i got a wooden leg and one earlobe hangs lower than the other one, but at the very least i'm aware of my shyt.  your breff stink did you know that?  

 

Marlo that is so funny. You are so right. I hate it when I don't think of this stuff when I am in the moment. I get so mad that I can't think straight. But I won't allow myself to be put in the dirt the next time. I am a work in progress. I am working on me...

With the weight or without the weight you are a beautiful lady. I remember when I was younger and in school all the kids picked on me cause they said I was ugly....the boys never wanted to date me and the girls never wanted to be my friend....i did grow up with self esteem issues.

*fast forward to high school years*

I still wasn't pretty but my attitude kinda changed I was fiesty and they guys were digging that...so I put two + two together, it's not about how you look it's about your swag sweetie.

Now that I'm older, beautiful, and losing the weight definantly didn't hurt my chances those same mofo's that talked crapped to me in school were trying to date a sista.

Even if you think you're not the best looking.....feel like you are! NOBODY can touch how you feel about you!

Thanks Mrs. Trina. I am sure our stories are  not uncommon. That is why I am trying to teach my daughter how to love herself. But it will be hard if I don't learn to take my own advice. I really want to set a good example for her.

There is an old African proverb that says, "I am not what you call me; I am what I answer to."  Meaning: no one can make you feel inferior without your permission.

That is a good saying. I think I am going to have to print that out and put it on my desk. As a constant reminder.

I guess I have a slightly different take on things.  When someone says something negative ~ I'll define "negative" as something I don't want to hear ~ I don't immediately dismiss it.  I'll mull it over and honestly ask myself could there be any truth to it.  If I decide there's something in myself that really is kinda funky, I'll work on it.  If not, I blow it off.  

My enemy might unintentionally give me a heads up that could actually help me in the long run.  I kinda like that notion.

In this particular situation though, these guys were obviously immature and not worth wasting your energy thinking about them. 

Go look at the pictures of the lady on your profile and decide for yourself what you believe about you.   

Oh I do that all of the time. I analyze to the point of overanalyzing to see if there is any merit to what someone is saying. That is blessing and a curse with me. Because sometimes you have to chalk stuff up to being just plain stupid and not worth your time or effort. As in this case.

Girl I have been told all kinds of stuff this past week.....

Im insane,  I have issues, Ive lost too much weight,  my boobs have disappeared, Oooh I think Im cute now,  I was never a friend so on & so forth...

And I swear if I internalized all this stuff...I would be as off kilter as the people that said these things to me.  Im at a point in my life Drea where I can finally say I know me.....I know what makes up my core,  and  I can trust  my instinct and  judgement despite what people say or do.  Oftentimes People have issues and love to project them onto other vulnerable souls.... IF you let them.  The thing is to learn to  be confident in your being.  Develope an assuredness about yourself  that no matter what people say or do...you are grounded and in love with  yourself.

You cannt let these people shake that....its all you have at the end of the day. You are by NO means an ulgy woman.  You are beautiful and blessed.  

I tell you the next time somebody tries to insult your intelligence you say to them...." I dont know what your smoking, Im the best thing since sliced bread " and keep it moving.