OT: The moment you KNOW you have fallen OUT
I fell out of love over time I guess, but I do remember when I knew for sure it was all done finished.
I'd gone to the gym then back to my office to finish up some work. My husband called me in the office (before cell phones, yes I'm that old) about 7:30 surprised I was still there. He was expecting voice mail having assumed I must already be on the train since it was so late.
When I told him I planed to catch the train just after 8:00, silence on the other side. He asked what day it was. I told him. More silence. He told me this was our wedding aniversary. Now I was silent. I said I'd be on the train just after eight, and happy anniversary.
I totally forgot and I really did not care that I forgot. The opposite of love is apathy.
I'd gone to the gym then back to my office to finish up some work. My husband called me in the office (before cell phones, yes I'm that old) about 7:30 surprised I was still there. He was expecting voice mail having assumed I must already be on the train since it was so late.
When I told him I planed to catch the train just after 8:00, silence on the other side. He asked what day it was. I told him. More silence. He told me this was our wedding aniversary. Now I was silent. I said I'd be on the train just after eight, and happy anniversary.
I totally forgot and I really did not care that I forgot. The opposite of love is apathy.
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WOW - that was profound - the opposite of love is apathy........ so true, SO true!!!!!
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Mack,
whattup. I came on today and saw your post. Since my wedding anniversary is coming up, I thought I would respond.
I will be married 15 years on Sept 17--and reading your email, I thought to myself "**** to hell with all this LOVE crap,,,, you gotta find somebody you can WORK with"
Now my wife may leave me tonite, but over these last years,, we have had 3 kids,, and we are like 2 ships passing in the nights. Most of my needs are NOT taken care of, and God only knows I aint taken care of her needs either--but we WORK well together. We aint got time to worry about how much in love with each other we are. We are busy.
Yall young people watch too much damn TV. Too many young black men watch these rap videos, and get distorted views of how shyt REALLY is-and they misconstrue their place in the black family. Too many black women watch romance tv, or read these books, and forget THEIR place in the black family. We read about OTHER people's lives, and then think we are deserving of all they have as well. Now,, if you meet these men, and they turn out NOT to be what you thought they were,,,,, then maybe YOU need to remember what you were looking for in the first place.
Shyt,,,, it aint THEIR fault, that YOU pegged them wrong. Its YOUR fault.
I played the game too. For a LONG time,,and I faked the funk wherever necessary--got what I wanted, and moved the hell on.
As far as the moment you fall outta love--I aint been there yet. But I will tell you this,,, I dont give a damn if my wife HAS fallen out of love with me,,,just do what she supposed to do--just as I will.
Life is too hard when you trying to do shyt right--nobody has time to be playing games.
Hold on,, one more thing-- let me quote you Mack "that the mofo in my bed ain't REALLY the mofo I am sleeping with inside - mofo just frontin the game.
WHAT HE DOING IN YOUR BED??????????????
come on sista,,,
dont trip--yall know betta.
Que
whattup. I came on today and saw your post. Since my wedding anniversary is coming up, I thought I would respond.
I will be married 15 years on Sept 17--and reading your email, I thought to myself "**** to hell with all this LOVE crap,,,, you gotta find somebody you can WORK with"
Now my wife may leave me tonite, but over these last years,, we have had 3 kids,, and we are like 2 ships passing in the nights. Most of my needs are NOT taken care of, and God only knows I aint taken care of her needs either--but we WORK well together. We aint got time to worry about how much in love with each other we are. We are busy.
Yall young people watch too much damn TV. Too many young black men watch these rap videos, and get distorted views of how shyt REALLY is-and they misconstrue their place in the black family. Too many black women watch romance tv, or read these books, and forget THEIR place in the black family. We read about OTHER people's lives, and then think we are deserving of all they have as well. Now,, if you meet these men, and they turn out NOT to be what you thought they were,,,,, then maybe YOU need to remember what you were looking for in the first place.
Shyt,,,, it aint THEIR fault, that YOU pegged them wrong. Its YOUR fault.
I played the game too. For a LONG time,,and I faked the funk wherever necessary--got what I wanted, and moved the hell on.
As far as the moment you fall outta love--I aint been there yet. But I will tell you this,,, I dont give a damn if my wife HAS fallen out of love with me,,,just do what she supposed to do--just as I will.
Life is too hard when you trying to do shyt right--nobody has time to be playing games.
Hold on,, one more thing-- let me quote you Mack "that the mofo in my bed ain't REALLY the mofo I am sleeping with inside - mofo just frontin the game.
WHAT HE DOING IN YOUR BED??????????????
come on sista,,,
dont trip--yall know betta.
Que
Man I LOVE you!!!!!!!you so right, SO right......
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Lavender
on 8/5/09 8:13 am - Northern, CA
on 8/5/09 8:13 am - Northern, CA
OMG.....FINALLY.....SOMEBODY TO BREAK IT ALL DOWN!!! WOO WEE 
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I don't know that it's a moment as opposed to a gradual decline. The trouble is that the moment you realize that things are changing, we don't move on. We wait until we get to the point where we can't stand the mofo. Maybe if we leave sooner some type of friendship can be salvaged. Of course, I've been called green a time or two, so take it for what it's worth.
I havent fallen out of love.......but I can honestly say I aint IN love every day either. 
Its a car ride......sometimes up hill and other times down hill, but I tell you its a ride worth taken if you truly care for the person. Not the sex, not the way they bake chicken, not the way they smell, not their balance in the bank account on payday, or the way they fold the towels.....but the person they are. The person that makes me smile on the inside in a school girl type of way.
My sweetie still does that for me and it feels hella- good on the days when I need it the most. Those are the days that after a hard day's work I pick up the phone just before quitting time and and whisper in that ear........." heey babe what time you getting in "
Its a car ride......sometimes up hill and other times down hill, but I tell you its a ride worth taken if you truly care for the person. Not the sex, not the way they bake chicken, not the way they smell, not their balance in the bank account on payday, or the way they fold the towels.....but the person they are. The person that makes me smile on the inside in a school girl type of way.
My sweetie still does that for me and it feels hella- good on the days when I need it the most. Those are the days that after a hard day's work I pick up the phone just before quitting time and and whisper in that ear........." heey babe what time you getting in "
In life, and especially on this journey there are sure to be days when you falter and give in.......just remember to never give up. 
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