OT..Cheating...What is it??

Mslayd02 aka Mrs.
Big_Cle

on 7/29/09 12:41 am, edited 7/29/09 12:41 am - Durham, NC
Me and one of my girlfriends was talking and the topic of cheating came up.
 
so my question for you guys is cheating is it about cheating that i bothers you the most?  Is it the physical act or the lying and dishonesty? Second part to the question is what do you consider cheating? Is talking about cheating considered cheating? Does cheating require any type of physical connection?

In my opinion its the dishonesty that is the most difficult to get past. Once you lie to me I have a hard time not second guessing everything you say and that goes for cheating bf/spouse/friends or family.
As for what is considered cheating its both physical and mental. if you are leading a life where you are out wining and dining some other chic like she is your lady thats cheating. If you are leading her to believe that there can be something else between you too other than friendship, that's cheating. So regardless of whether you (as double..Ayy put) get down with the get down, you can still be cheating.

 

HelpMeRhonda !!
on 7/29/09 12:47 am - J. R. Ewing, TX
The best way to sum up your questions is cheating is ANYTHING you feel like you to have sneak behind your significant others back to day.
 
Although, there are sloppy cheaters who can care less.
(deactivated member)
on 7/29/09 1:51 am - Baltimore, MD
for me, the post can end here.

cheating is anything you're doing that your SO would kick your @ss for if they found out you were doing it.

that anything doesn't have to be physical. it can be flirting on the internet or in person at work.
Star Jones
on 7/29/09 12:49 am - National Harbor, MD
I'm with Rhonda........anything I would have to lie about is off limits.

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MarloT
on 7/29/09 12:56 am
VSG on 12/20/07 with
he doesn't hafta touch her (for me)

cheating:  mimicking the mental, emotional, physical bond he has with me with someone else.   that's how i define it and that's what would bother me most.  not that a one night stand wouldn't bother me, but it wouldn't scar me.   no such thing as *just happened* sneakiness involves preparation.

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Mslayd02 aka Mrs.
Big_Cle

on 7/29/09 1:11 am - Durham, NC
I like your definition, that sums it very well.

 

MSW will not settle
on 7/29/09 1:03 am
If you're hiding anything at all you're cheating.  If it was truely innocent, you'd speak freely about it with your loved one.

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LadyJwb
on 7/29/09 1:37 am - Philadelphia, PA
I too am with Rhonda it's all cheating the Physical act and the mental and conversational cheating as well becuase it will lead to physical lust/attraction.
# 1 MACK_MAMA
on 7/29/09 1:53 am
It's the mental and emotional for me - physical is blah.

I do believe that sex can be just an act - so a one time fling, not so serious but a long stading interaction..... gotta cut cha!  LOL

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Mslayd02 aka Mrs.
Big_Cle

on 7/29/09 2:27 am - Durham, NC
A woman after my own heart, cause I not cuttin just one one im cuttin both of you...lol

 

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