Friday Debate: B.O.B.

I don't know what you're talking about.  BAF has never seen my darkside.

My mind must so be in the gutter this morning....... when I saw B.O.B ...I was like why Dee Dee talking about battery operated boyfriends this early in the morning .....forgive me father

~bwahahaha~ cause she just put hers to sleep LOL ~just kidding~

 @ cause she just put hers to sleep 

Man o' man, if they could make one of those things for men and have it be capable to cook a hot meal too, then you would see the end of marriage as we currently know it. 

I worked in a grocery store in high school - I thought you were talkin about Bottom of Basket.

I am still nursing a hang-over from two days ago, so my mind didn't enter the gutter.

I think it is lack of fathers in the home. I hate to blame women but I have too since we are the ones who carry the fetus and deliver the baby.  If we get to know a man BEFORE we lay down with them and have a baby and understand their family values this can alleviate the majority of single parent homes.

I had my first and only child at the age of "17", I so thankful my son had my daddy and brothers to look up too otherwise, he could be part of the "system". Oddly his father has always taken care of him financially (child support) but never came a part of his life until he was "18".  REGARDLESS of what people think a boy needs his father OR some type of male role model in his life to teach him some type of structure.

I look at this board and other message boards when the subject of discipline arise the first thing most people say is "NOBODY is going to discipline my child by me".
 
It seems like back in the day when the VILLAGE raised our children we didn't have all the problems we have now.

@get to know a man BEFORE we lay down with them and have a baby and understand their family values this can alleviate the majority of single parent homes.

*I* am guilty of this one to the MAX!!!!  So glad I did NOT have a boy - raising babygirl without a father is challenge ENOUGH!  But I tell you what - I didn't REPEAT my mistake and WON'T be passing another rugrat outta THIS cat unless there's a marriage, discussion and financially planning already DONE for the lil sucker!  LOL

As for the village - I totally feel you - I just enrolled my daughter in a summer program at the community center in my neighborhood - everyone has been so nice and welcoming to me and I realized last night that I am a damn hermit - I'm not used to interacting with folks at all - so I am challenging myself to become more invovled and open from that perspective. 

Amen! Never again!  I was out there in the 'world' married the man i got from the 'world' ...we got divorced when my son was only 3...my ex is not a part.. which quite frankly is prob. for the best due to his dangerous lifestyle. My dad is still living and my son has him and my brother..but i constantly am on the look out for positive experiences and influences...man it staarts so-early..my son started bringing home bad habits from kidergarten on and I have to constantly 'deprogram" him...but i have recently realized that i can't go it alone..it indeed takes a villiage..I have retired my Superwoman costume.

Rhonda you are so right!!!!!!!!!

Lexi

yeah....from experience of watching my nephews and other boys in my hometown....positive male influence is needed....or you need a real dedicated mother ~sigh~