"I dont understand"
. I was reading the post " I don't understand" and it caught my attention. There was a question" why do people leave just disappear and never update their profile or their progress? people seem to come back when they are having a stall, weight gain and or Issues". I'm going to be honest, we as individuals face many problems in this world It may be a change in our lives such as losing a job, losing loved ones or losing the access to the Internet who knows 
?. However when a individual is going through a hardship they may not be motivated to log on and share at that moment. It may take a week or even several months to realize "Hey! I need 
I need some support from people like me, I need O H OR MY BAF family". In the beginning I was addicted to BAF and the main board in general. I had lost weight I was feeling good about myself then, one year later my son was killed in a car accident. Prior to I heard about O H but was computer ill literate at the time. After my son passed away my daughter showed me how to log on and that was a way for me to escape. It was encouraging to read different profiles and see the before and after pictures. I would 
on the main board for a while I didn't even know that BAF existed until Dimple Donna introduced me. I would log on and climb into another world so that I could stay motivated and relate to individuals who had the same interest. Sometimes there are positive discussions when I couldn't wait to log on. At other times negative discussions that don't even have anything to do with WLS, that's when an individual such as myself will leave or just . O H is here to encourage each other. It's OK to leave the board and come back. We're here for each other to motivate and help each other we have to keep in mind " We fall down but we get up"!> And getting up means that we can go back to OH or BAf and get the support we need. I feel that OH and BAF is one big family we are our brothers keeper! Oh and I will update my profile and put up new pictures soon. Be blessed 
Renee
I totally agree with You. Why a person leaves is their business, when or if they choose to return is also their business and we should offer them the Right Hand of Fellowship.
Be Well, Live Well
I Am Most Excellent - Affirmed Only Of GOD.
I wish for You, what I pray for Myself: Wellness, Happiness and Success In ALL Things Good!
I know for Sure I Control: My Attitude and Effort, My Health and Happiness.
Hey Renee...It is not so much if people leave the forum because honestly I do not post as much myself...And it is not only with BAF because I love the RNY board as well as the Plastic Surgery board...I guess this is more geared to newbies that have had surgery in the past 6-12 months and for all you know they are dead or lost somewhere...The reason that this came about is because I thought about a few people that I talked to before and went through my friends list to see no updates after surgery...That made me think more about it....Naturally the closer to goal, the less questions you may have and/or concerns so your input obviously will decrease but I am doing great and I still need the encouragement and positive reinforcement.
I have an idea: How about we have a National Profile update day...lol.
HIGH-294CURRENT-151 GOAL-150LBS GONE-143LBS 2 GO-1 (Last weigh in 7/14) 
Platics Done: Breast Reduction (5/14) Extended Tummy Tuck w/ Anchor & Brachioplasty (5/29)You know, I understand your concern, but I just don't get the importance of updating or the need to come in to a Forum unless one feels like it...or they just want to show off pics. I mean, do You expect to be coming in here for the next 10,15, 20...years and updating your profile all the while. I think that we have to be realistic, that's just not going to happen for most folks. Are we asking them to be more faithful to a website than to some of their Relationships? I believe that there will continue to be compelling profiles and pictures that encourage wheter people update or not. I just think whenever someone chooses to come back or drop in for a minute, we should just offer a hello...or not.
Be Well, Live Well
I Am Most Excellent - Affirmed Only Of GOD.
I wish for You, what I pray for Myself: Wellness, Happiness and Success In ALL Things Good!
I know for Sure I Control: My Attitude and Effort, My Health and Happiness.
I can update my weight loss charts and pictures without a problem but I even have to get better with blogging...I normally drop a few lines but I would like to get more detailed and that is something for me to work on.
HIGH-294CURRENT-151 GOAL-150LBS GONE-143LBS 2 GO-1 (Last weigh in 7/14) Platics Done: Breast Reduction (5/14) Extended Tummy Tuck w/ Anchor & Brachioplasty (5/29)
HIGH-294CURRENT-151 GOAL-150LBS GONE-143LBS 2 GO-1 (Last weigh in 7/14) Platics Done: Breast Reduction (5/14) Extended Tummy Tuck w/ Anchor & Brachioplasty (5/29)
