OT for today: Romance - lost art or just plain dead?
I guess I get to be first...again.
Romance isn't dead, per se, but its on life support. I'll start by saying that when speaking with my daughter, I always tell her NOT to even CONSIDER dealing with anyone who doesn't treat her as well as I do.
Having said that, there are two things, in my opinion, that come into play. One, are the knuckleheads who feel, because one or two girls let them get away with the "Gurl,lemme me come over and sniff it.." junk, that they can always get away with that behavior. To me, along with the perpetuated stereotypes put out there these days, it shows a serious disrespect for these women. Why resepct, they reason, if they don't respect themselves? Because of this, they paint everyone with the same paint strokes.
The second are those women who DO allow these boys pretending to be men to get away with NOT treating them as the queens the deserve to be treated as. Much of it may have to do with little or no self-esteem. Others may assume this is the way its "supposed" to be.
A third, though is that thinking that not everyone "deserves" to see the "romantic" side; that it is reserved for the "special ones". Not that cordiality goes out the window, for it shows respect. However, the "flowery words,the shows of affection, etc." aren't given to everyone.
"When Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept for there were no more worlds to conquer." Plutach. Not true, for there are always more worlds to conquer.
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I guess I get to be first...again.
Romance isn't dead, per se, but its on life support. I'll start by saying that when speaking with my daughter, I always tell her NOT to even CONSIDER dealing with anyone who doesn't treat her as well as I do.
Having said that, there are two things, in my opinion, that come into play. One, are the knuckleheads who feel, because one or two girls let them get away with the "Gurl,lemme me come over and sniff it.." junk, that they can always get away with that behavior. To me, along with the perpetuated stereotypes put out there these days, it shows a serious disrespect for these women. Why resepct, they reason, if they don't respect themselves? Because of this, they paint everyone with the same paint strokes.
The second are those women who DO allow these boys pretending to be men to get away with NOT treating them as the queens the deserve to be treated as. Much of it may have to do with little or no self-esteem. Others may assume this is the way its "supposed" to be.
A third, though is that thinking that not everyone "deserves" to see the "romantic" side; that it is reserved for the "special ones". Not that cordiality goes out the window, for it shows respect. However, the "flowery words,the shows of affection, etc." aren't given to everyone.
I totally agree that women let way too much slide - howesomeever.....
I like the point you make that dudes decide who gets 'the treatment' - so not getting/having it says a lot about how that mofo thinks OF you....... interesting!!!!
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Well, if the **** is put up there doesn't get any acknowledgment like it ain't there, then I delete it as a waste of time and keystrokes. lol.
Anyway, yes, I can't speak for all the dudes, but I can speak for me. Not to say that I'm not cordial and respectful of ALL I go out with, not everyone gets the romance. Hell, some end up not even deserving it, much less getting it.
However, in my experience, I find another element taking place that I forgot to mention before. Some women seem to find romance as phony or old fashioned or even corny. For example, I had a friend tell me she went on a date with this cat, he did all the door opening, chair holding stuff...and she was wondering if this was something truly did or if he was just faking the funk. Hell, I've been on at least one date where I was told what I was doing was corny. Okay, cool. One and done. lol.
"When Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept for there were no more worlds to conquer." Plutach. Not true, for there are always more worlds to conquer.
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Dismount the high horse.
I can understand the corny thing - that's women who are used to BS not realizing what should be AVERAGE shiot when they come across it - kinda like thinking spam is the ish until you eat filet mignon.
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<-----"So let it be written...so let it be done!" Eating filet mignon while being used to Spam, you might actually think the filet AIN'T **** though...too used to the bootleg stuff instead of the real.
The other thing is that, not so much the corny thing as the PHONY thing. Some guy may come across that way and, unfortuantely, some women see it as "okay, he's only doing this for the cookie.."
"When Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept for there were no more worlds to conquer." Plutach. Not true, for there are always more worlds to conquer.
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LMAOOOOOO
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The few Americans I have dated that were romantic were fake romantic as far as I was concerned. I mean, they "felt" it and **** but all three of those dudes were total players. So "romance" now is seen here as a game, not a true expression. I'm too good for games.
My current bf of two years is French and he brings that **** to a whole new level.
The women over there are complete and total *****es, forcing the guys to be the sweetest most romantic gesturing honest men.
And yes, I love foreign D.
**note to self - find me a Frenchman!!!**
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