OT Topic of the Day: Money can't buy it - but can money STOP love?

No $$$?  No credit?  No real estate?  What about health insurance?

I was supposed to do a quick 'lurk only' to make up for some of the time I spent on the BAF yesterday but I could not resist this question.  I've been called a  gold digger and I cant' say they were wrong. 

Would I enter a relationship with a  broke man?  NOT ME -- NO, NEVER NEVER, NO!    Poverty is an absolute deal breaker. 

It is not that I want what he has.  I just refuse to deal with the baggage that comes with being broke and in debt.  My taste are flexible, but I just can't see always settling for less because lover boy can't afford the finer things, even on occasion.  

I've been poor, middle class, and comfortable and back to poor.  If  with all my personal drama, expensive health issues, and reversal of fortune I can own a home and a car without being up to my ass in debt, I expect the same from any man I'm with. 

So I do not have much, but by my age I'd best have a little something.  I demand no less from a man.  Perhaps that's why I'm single?

There's a big difference between being a gold digger and having standards.  A man will not hate your for having standards if you are about something.  A gold digger's stock and trade is mooching to improve & sustain their lifestyle. That is certainly someone who isn't about anything.  I haven't met a man yet who had a problem with a woman having standards if she's maintaining her lifestyle on her own. 

You get it.  Standards are what its all about. 

I know a few women who think love conquers all, and also really believe true love comes first then finances.  Hence I become the "gold digger". 

To them I say see how much love is left when you're broke because of his financial  shenanigans.   

Okay, I guess I'm different! When I met my husband he was one of those Mommas boys! You know the kind that Momma put everything in her kids name, didn't pay it and when it got cut off, went to the next kid! So what I did was pull his credit report, took out a loan and paid off everything he had on his credit report. At the time I was 18 and he was 19! Before this He had tried a couple of times to get a car but was denied!
After he was approved, his wife (me) was the best thing since slice bread. Whenever his family ask for anything he says, you have to ask Teena cause I know I wouldn't be nothing without her!!! (whipped)
After college I was making a lot more than my husband, but I never let him feel belittled, (after all he helped pay my way) I always said once the money went into the bank it was ours! Now my husband makes 6G's and me, well nothing b/c I'm not working! So that too works out b/c when his check goes in the bank it is still mine, I mean ours!!!
My point is if it is a good man, he may be worth working with!
Teena

Yes money or the lack thereof can stop a good relationship and send that sucker straight to the depths of hell.

If I have to do it all by myself, mine as well be ALL by  myself. 

Im starting to feel and act more like Tina...." Whats love got to do with it " 

When I was knee high to a pup my mom taught us how to save money and spend wisely. So to get involved with someone deep in debt and managing it poorly was a Don't do it.  If he don't handle money well you won't be happy she'd say.  I didn't listen.  Regretted it!   So my  answer today and forever is a simple, no thank you.