Will I ever stop seeing the "FAT GIRL" in the mirror!!!

Teena D.
on 7/15/09 2:42 am - Charlotte, NC

oooh! I don't think that is me! Very interesting article, but I'm not depressed or none social nor have I been abused. I see people everyday and I'm usually the life of the party, I just didn't want to see the people who saw me last at a size 9! Even though I am proud of my accomplishments I still don't see it as good enough! (For them anyway!)

I wasn't the most popular girl in school, a little shy to tell the truth! Now I am Mrs. Bubbles, always grinning showing all 29 (some brought) of my teeth! LOL

I guess I should've went, (especially since my hair is the bomb!) We all say we don't care what other people think but we do, we really do! I think once I convince myself that I look "normal", then it won't matter what other people think!
Thanks for the article, I kept saying BBD (Bell, Biv, Devoe!)
Teena

wendy T.
on 7/15/09 8:19 am - Milwaukee, WI
You know I use to read posts where they say they see the same fat girl in the mirror...I just couldnt imagine it..until now..I wish I could see what others see. I look fat to me too. Oh how I wish I could see through the eyes of others...Kitty mentioned putting two pics together...when I look at my fat pics Im like dayyuuumm I dont want to go back there...but when I look at myself in the mirror I see myself still as plus size.So I feel ya gurl.
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MSW will not settle
on 7/15/09 9:38 am
I think what separates us from the typical case of BDD is we are responding to change; the psych term being "Adjustment Disorder". 

I saw an extreme case of BDD some years back where a man saw himself as an amputee since childhood.  Later in life attempted to make it so.  He saw what was never there. 

We keep seeing what was there for years but is now gone.  A phantom image, just like an amputee's phantom limb that 'itches'.  We have a view of who we are that was formed by, for many of us, life long obesity.  Its no wonder adjusting to our new and improved bodies is a challenge. 

                   MSW   Roux-En-Y Gastric Bypass: Eat sensibly & enjoy moderation  

 Links:  Are you a compulsive eater?  for help OA meets on-line Keep Coming Back, One Day At a Time  Overeaters Anonymous 

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MSW will not settle
on 7/15/09 9:19 am, edited 7/15/09 9:24 am
I'm only down 55lbs post op but 100lbs since my highest weight.  I feel hughe at a size twelve, but not so when I was a size 20/22.  It was not until I looked at my size 16/18 dos pics that I could see the difference. 

I'm still 50lbs too fat, but those pics let me see how far I've come.  No amount of compliments could do for me what the pics do.  I agree with what's already been said.  keep those pics close.  I have a mini album I look at every time I'm feeling fatter than fat, and thinking it will always be that way.  I will probably always struggle with this.

                   MSW   Roux-En-Y Gastric Bypass: Eat sensibly & enjoy moderation  

 Links:  Are you a compulsive eater?  for help OA meets on-line Keep Coming Back, One Day At a Time  Overeaters Anonymous 

               LV'N MY RNY.  WORKING FOR ME BECAUSE I WORK FOR IT. 

ATL Diva 2009
on 7/15/09 10:30 am - Lawrenceville, GA
I think its "normal" I woke up the other morning at 4 AM because I felt "fat" and that I could stand to lose another 10 lbs I'm 5'10 and a size 6/8 so my mind knows that should be thing but all I see is fat. Some days I feel I rock it but latley which as I type I'm wondering if its because I'm no longer losing and simply maintaiing if I've just got used to looking at me so that fat girl image is coming thru..kinda like when you're big you don't realize how big you are? I dunno but know ur not alone.

HW 299/PS 286/CT 155 

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Teena D.
on 7/15/09 1:17 pm - Charlotte, NC
I'm glad to know that I'm "normal" or there of enough of "un-normal" people that it really doesn't matter! People really think I'm being smart when they say "you look nice" and I say "yeah right, I will look nice after I drop about 40 more pounds!

I can really see a difference in my chest area, how low can they go!LOL
Thanks for the support,
TEENA
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