O/T - Questions for the brethren and sisters

I don't smoke.  I do not like any man to smoke around me because I don't like the smell and I suffer with asthma.  If I was to meet a guy and he smoked, it was be a deal breaker because the reasons stated previously.  I had a boyfriend (now ex-boyfriend) and he smoked in the house and lied that he didn't and that I was trippin'.  I always felt like I was kissing an ashtray.  Yuck!

I do not smoke.  I will not date a man who smokes.  It is a deal breaker for me and I usually ask this question up front.  My ex used to smoke and I preferred if he smoked outside.

Nope ...tried it once and that relationship lasted all of 3 days....kissing someone who smokes is awful tasting and having the smoke smell on you and on the furniture is gross. And top it off I develped Asthma as an aldult so smoking is a deal breaker.

Do you smoke?  I do no smoke.


How do you feel about a woman/man who smokes?
I have friends who smoke but I can not be in a relationship with someone who smokes.

If you meet a woman/man and you start to feel her/him, but later on find out that she/he smokes, is that a deal breaker?
It would be a deal breaker.  I have been in two relationships with smokers.  The first one, I knew she smoked but after a while I knew it would not  work so I broke it off.  She decided to stop because she wanted to be with me.  I believed her but later I found out she was still smoking but hiding it.  This caused more stress on the relationship.

The second one SAID she did not smoke because I said early on that I would not date a smoker.  I later find out she was a smoker and moved on.

If you don't smoke and your SO does, do you have designated smoke areas at home?
N/A, I would never ask someone to stop smoking to be in a relationship.  Smoking makes some people happy and they should not have to sacrifice something that they enjoy.

My last cigarette was about six years ago.  Drinking calls up that urge.

To each his own.  It only really  matters for close relationships.

No smokers for me, period.  I was a light occaisional smoker but I liked it and I still do.  I quit when I was pregnant.  Since then, to avoid getting hooked I allow myself a pack every six months and I can smoke for two consecutive weeks or until the pack is done.  This has worked for 22 years.  If I were with a smoker, I'd be one too in a heartbeat.  Smoking killed my dad 27 years after he quit.  It was an ugly way to go.  Neither me or the man I love are going out like that. 

My home and car are no smoking zone. 

I know I'm all late in responding but I definitely had to respond, I have a friend who smokes. When we met and became friends I didnt know he smoked. After becoming friends we started dating two years and I had no clue that Man smoked.  I found out two years later.  He spent the night at my house I still didn't know he made it a point to smoke when I was sleep and down stairs in another bathroom I thought I was going crazy.  I even asked him did he smoke because I NEVER saw the man smoke and I didn't smell it on him.  When I asked he didn't answer me. then it happened  again. I asked him again and he finally admitted that he did I was so pissed because I don't smoke and would prefer to be with someone who is also a non smoker.  We know longer date not because of that but we are still friends.  I recently found out he is on a Christian dating website and had an oportunity to see his profile.  On there this negro had the nerve to put he doesn't smoke I said hold on you are lying he told me he put it because he doesn't smoke around people who dont smoke, I said you lie and the truth ain't in ya because you now smoke around me he said thats different.  I couldn't believe it I said well you reap what you sow you lie your gonna hook up with scheming lying women. He got mad and told me to leave it alone but that is ridiculous. We are still friends but it changed the level of respect I have for him.

No, I do not smoke ( use to be heavy smoker).  Sometimes I still get a twinge to smoke a port, however I have bronchitis at which even the hint of smoke gets triggered so I try not to feel any kind of way about these people.   Yes smoking is a deal breaker.  When friends come over, they must smoke outside, that is designated area. 

I do not smoke.

No personal thoughts or opinions on what others do. I just hate walking through the smell of smoke.  

Growing up my mom, dad, and sister were chain smokers. All day and night smoke, smoke, smoke. The worse part was we lived in Baltimore and came to NC often. They would be in the car for 4 hours puffing away killing a little sister. Windows rolled up, ac barely blowing. I used to hack real loud in the back seat so they would get the message that they were killing me. I almost caught couple of beat downs to get my point across but who pays attention to the little kid.

I am thankful I have not developed lung cancer from second hand smoke.

My husband does not smoke. Not sure if that would have been a deal breaker.

I just realized none of our friends smoke. Not because we are anti smokers it has just happened that way.

Hey Cookie...

I smoked many years ago - but stopped when I became pregnant with my son who is now 32.

As for dating smokers...that is a NO-NO for me...Back in November, I began dating a guy who smoked but decided my health was more important than that relationship...He claimed to be in the 'process' of quitting....but that nikka lied to me telling me he had purchased his last pack of cigarettes...that 'last pack' ended up lasting for 2 damned months...needless to say, I placed him on ignore and kept it moving...hmm...God was telling me something then...

Besides, I watched my mother die a fast death and my daddy die a slow death...due to smoking related cancers...so, thanks, but no thanks!

NO SMOKERS...PERIOD!!!

DD

I don't smoke. I dated one or two in the past that did. It was different but not so bothersome that I couldn't be around them. They were really good with their oral hygiene as well so I never felt like I was kissing an ashtray. My husband chews tobacco...I can't say that it thrills me but he's real particular about his habit so it doesn't affect me.