My sista.... why you so MEAN?

What's up with all this thought-provoking stuff this early on a Monday morning?  LOL

I used to be really bad with the alienation thing.  I have my 'circle' of friends and felt no need to add to that.   it took me too long to get that circle just right!  jk...lol

Even though I felt that way, I try to still be cordial and speak, compliment, and be nice....I just didn't feel the need to add more friends. 

I have changed a bit and opened myself up.  I actually credit BAF for it.  After becoming a part of this 'family', I have learned that there is a lot people (me included) have to offer each other. 

 

While I'm not a sista and have nothing to add to this, I've often wondered this myself.  Out of curiousity, i'm just reading and looking for answers.

In my opinion, I think it has something to do with we as sistas feeling the need to work hard and be better to get ahead. So although I dont think it is a conscious effort to be that way towards all sista its just a subconscious reaction. We are so use to people trying to pull us down including our sista and our brothers that we put up this barrier with sista that are not in our inner circle.

I'm a people person so I speak and greet everyone. If you don't speak back then that's your issue not mine. Like Shani says I don't have a problem giving compliments to a sista who has it going on. Hell, she could hook me up and give me some pointers. I still want to learn so I don't mind asking. But there are some out there that are like I got mine, you get yours the best way you can and they are unwilling to help. Me I'm the opposite I'm gonna give out the info because someone gave it to me kinda like (Paying it forward). But I am still a work in progress.

Really MM???

Maybe it's my southern roots and upbringing, but my initial instinct is to smile and disarm the negativity, rather than insight anymore than what's already there with adding to the drama with preconceived views of my sistas.  No doubt I get looks of why is this fool grining and speaking to me?  Or what is she selling?  People/women will always have something to say about you good, bad or indifferent, but we have no control over that, nor am I concerned about it. 

Approaching situations with the thought and attitude that everyone has a story, and if you engage them in conversation about themselves (their favorite topic)  it usually humanizes you and puts everyone on the same level playing field.  Keep smiling and see how the world looks at you differently.

And Double_Aay............gitty up with that mess!.......
That sounds like some barber shop banter (gossip) that our male counterparts engage in round the corner while getting freshed up!  Oh my bad...........men don't gossip.......do they??.......lol

J

 @ men don't gossip...

No we don't.  We simply discuss issues very vigorously!  LOL 

  yeah - right.  Men are sometimes WORSE than chicks at that! 

                                                                                 Look deep into my eyes!



 Don't believe the hype.  Those a lies perpertrated by the da man to help bring da brotha man down. 

Very interesting Monday morning topic to get us all off and running for the week MM!

At times, I do feel the sista alienation.  I have been stabbed in the back on numerous occasions but I have always prevailed and came out to be a stronger and better person as a result.  So, I have the backstabbers to thank for that.  I have reached out previously to only get the cold shoulder and I have learned to keep it moving when I get the cold shoulder.  I also do not have a problem giving a compliment to anyone... sista or not.  I am a very outgoing person and I reach out on the regular trying to expand my network of potential friends or social grouping.  Expanding your social circle can be extremely rewarding.  Many doors have opened up for me because I have chosen to think outside the box and/or reached out to someone to attempt to create a bond.

Hey Faith!  I am a hermit, myself - from years of being fat and invisible, I tend to move around without interacting by habit, not design - it's genuinely surprising when folk talk to me.  but I perk right up and engage in conversation once I am approached.