My 13 Year Old son thinks he's gay

 I hear ya DD!  I will talk to him and continue to talk, I just feel very deeply that he feels alone and has no one to share his feelings with and that needs to change.  As a parent I need to protect him because he clearly has no idea what he's getting into by going online looking for other gay people.

I appreciate your prayers.

                                    What do you mean by "your level in the kingdom of God"  

 I was just saying my situation is not unique to just me.  People aren't immune to certain things in life because of what they have achieved in life.  This situation can be anyones story out there, and I was thinking it happened to me because I wasn't praying over my children enough, maybe I wasn't being the best example I could be for them, at the time I wrote that note I had a lot of self condemnation on my heart

I have two boys.... I would be VERY disappointed in the news BUT I'd never react negatively and put their business in the street (so to speak).  I'd use my energy to be there to support them emotionally, mentally and show them love and acceptance.

 It's very easy to say what you would do when you haven't been something personally for yourself.

Picture your life going the best it ever has, you're happy in every aspect of it, and what you thought was true in one area turned out not to be.  You'd be shocked and depending on your personality type you'd do what came natural to you, my energy propels me to seek guidance, consider all options before making a decision, and be true to myself and personal convictions.  I dont want to say I support something I do not agree with, but my love is real, and that's the stance I will take....show love, and although I do not understand I plan to reach out to him to understand, and to protect him and guide him on how not to seek a potential mate online using the WWW.  Our world is too jacked up to do something like that at 13.

My 25 cents: try not to make his 'sexual orientation' the focus of your lives. If he is indeed gay, he may get stares, sneers, etc. from enough people - he doesn't need it from his family.

Instead, shift your focus on MANY other things in life that are of importance - family, sports, music, grades, church, art classes, music lessons, etc/etc.   As an example, if he's good at cake decorating, art, basket weaving, etc. encourage him to be the BEST he can be.

As his parent, be honest w/him about your feelings, thoughts, opinions.  However, if this is the way he wants to go (13 may be a bit young to make that choice), then you have to choose to accept HIM & continue to love him....or not.  Don't be offended if he chooses to go down a different path - it's ultimately HIS decision.

Was it Dateline that had the programs about online chats?  Please be careful - don't want strangers coming into your home or him going to theirs. 

You stated "i always thought your level in the kingdom of God protected you from certain things" - honey, the Devil's main goal is to steal, kill & destroy.  My father was the PASTOR and got caught up in the web. 

You also stated "I cannot afford him to live a life I know God calls an abomination" - God gave him to you to love & raise; however, your son will give account of his own actions to the Lord.  What are you going to do....handcuff him to the house & never let him learn on his own? 

God knows YOUR heart & your sons heart. God has a plan for your sons life - HE will carry you through these tough times.  Stay focused on the positive & continue to pray for God's direction.  I will keep you in my thoughts & prayers.

P.S.
There is a wonderful woman on this site, "Lee". She's on vacation BUT she may have some really good insight for you.

 How eloquently was your response to me, I'll take all 25 cents!!!!

I am trying hard to not make the orientation my focus, but it's hard growing up in church and being taught a thing over and it stays with you.  I believe my love for him will help me work through this situation.  Overall I am a supportive parent (I believe), this one just takes me for a loop to be honest.  I feel over the course of his 13 years thus far I have had many answers to many problems, but this one leaves me at a loss.  I can honestly say I DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO....but show love.

My prayers for my children will always remain the same as they were before this incident occured.  They WILL grow up to be the Men of God, God created them to be, and that everything done in the dark will be brought to light......I am here to help propel them to their destiny in a safe manner.

I know God is carrying me because the burden is lifting already, and I know that is nothing but God!

Thank you for your note.

Just had a "similiar" situation - my daughter who was diagnosed bi-polar (in high school) recently got pregnant.  LORD JESUS HAVE MERCY!!!   I sat down w/her and discussed, cried & discussed.  She said she was _not going to have the baby - no way, no how_.  Drugs were also involved.  We discussed some more.  In reality, I had to accept that it's HER body & HER choice.  There was nothing I could do aside from handcuffing her to the house for 9 months. We went to our doctor and discussed all options.  She had an abortion.  I had to stand by her in her choice, regardless of my beliefs. 

History: I'm a Pastor's daughter, Dad turned homosexual, Mom went off the deep end. I had baby out of wedlock, got married to another - 2nd baby. Divorced.  My folks LEFT ME high and dry and disowned me for years.  Talk about hurt...girl....I was tore up for years.   

BUT, my children are gifts and I will stand by them NO MATTER what, thru thick & thin.  I talked w/my Dad about the abortion and we agreed that given her mental condition & many other factors, she would go to a back-yard-abortion-clinic & who knows what then?!?!?  I wasn't willing to risk my daughters life.

PLEASE know that I am serious when I say I will pray for you.  This is NOT an easy subject to handle.  Much love my sister.

 Wow, talk about being transparent....what a story.

I guess under all the makeup, fine linen, huge houses we're all dealing with something, or have a deep and profound story to tell.  Thank you for listening to mine, and sharing yours.

just out of curiosity...I'm going to ask....your dad disowned you after he came out about being gay?