My 13 Year Old son thinks he's gay

Long story short, I believe my 13 year old son believes he is gay. If you were to ask him directly he would deny it.   One year ago we found that he discovered an online gay community and homosexual porn. He was placed in counseling and the situation disappeared (so I thought).   This morning I discovered he’s be using his PS3 video game system to chat with others and based on their names he’s again reaching out to the gay community and Lord only knows what else.   Right now my initial thoughts and counsel from my friend has been counseling, fasting and prayer, but to be honest I’ve been through this before a year ago and my heart feels hopeless.  I think about a personal friend I grew up with in the church and how she ended up having a homosexual encounter within her marriage, she identified her open door coming from his older sister who molested her in their youth.   I think about children in the ministries I have attended whom I could see this character on them (mainly in their mannerisms) and it was confirmed years later that what I perceived was right.  These would be the children of prominent people in ministry who experienced the same thing. I guess I always thought your level in the kingdom of God protected you from certain things, or caused you to rapidly identify and remove these kind of issues. In addition, most recently TD Jakes’ son comes to mind with the situation that happened with him in the park with an undercover officer.  So I see this happens at all levels of ministry, and I just don’t know what to do.   Right now my main thoughts are on the safety both mental and physical for my son.  I do not want him walking through this world feeling alone and unloved especially by his family.  It is clear he will not share his feeling with us based on how we reacted in the past and my personal biblical beliefs (In my opinion). But I cannot afford him to live a life I know God calls an abomination, fall into depression, and other doors that could possibly open up in his life.   This morning it came to mind how the DL brother was formed….We spent many years telling boys that exhibited gay tendencies to take the switch out of their hips, uncross their legs like “that", stop acting like a girl ect…..we dealt with the outside and taught them how to act like men to deceive everyone, and never dealt with the inside.  I don’t want this for my son.

I am not quite sure what you are seeking. If it is advice then I would say then you need to maybe not borrow as much misery as you seem to be.  Thirteen is a difficult age and there are all kinds of stimuli and influences coming in from all directions.  I don't have children but take it from someone who has several friends who have walked that path....back up off your boy. 

I know that you only want what's best for him and his future but your line, But I cannot afford him to live a life I know God calls an abomination, fall into depression, and other doors that could possibly open up in his life.  Is setting you up as judge and jury in his life and that is not your place. 

I know you love him but allow God to work through and on him. God gave us all free will, including your son, and whatever life he choose for himself is his own. You can see love the sinner though not the sin. 

 I'm not sure what I want exactly by posting my original message, I do know that I intend to show him love for him and who he is to me and what he means to me.

I hope you find answers to your dilema with your son. I personally do not have any children but if I did I would not be upset that they were gay. I would be worried about the different challenges they might face because of thier orientation but not upset with them about that orientation. My two bffs are gay males and it would be hypocritical for me to love them so much regardless of thier lifestyle and shun my own child. But that's just me. Good luck with your child and I hope you find it in your heart to love them unconditionally because they will need that comfort from you.

 That happens to be my biggest concern, is how will he handle life if he cannot tell his parents the truth, and is reaching out to God knows who online in the form of chat rooms and homosexual communities.  that's my concern.  What can I do to make you trust me enough so I can protect you as my child?

IMHO, you have to tell him exactly what you just told BAF.  Tell him that you love him and you want him to know that he can come to you and talk to you about anything.  Tell him that even if it is something with which you may not agree, you as his parent still want to discuss it openly and honestly and that you are more concerned about him and his world.  Be honest and say that you would hate for him to be misled or misinformed by people online and you will try your best to be open and accepting of his feelings even though it may not be a path you would choose for yourself.

Now if I remember 13 correctly, that may not do a hill of beans good b/c some 13 y/os are just ornery, lol.  But more than likely you have raised your son to have some sense and eventually I think he will open up to you, especially if he sees there won't be the condemnation he feels might be your reaction. 

Good luck and God bless you all.

I agree, thanks for your humble opinion....it's appreciated 

Justbeingme it may be time to let your son be  him. Homosexuality can't be prayed away.  If  U love him then love him unconditionally.  God made us all. I am not gay, However their is place for all people. To  believe that the way  u live is the only way to live may be arrogant. Their are enough people in the world to mistreat your son and other Gays  don't be one of those people. Being a teenager is hard enough.  It  maybe time to show him love and understanding. I have read that GOD likes that.  May God bless U in your time of need.
Deman

 I disagree about the power of prayer., of course I love him and will love him unconditionally but I can see how this lifestyle conflicts with the Word of God.  Essentially I place this God's hand since my son is His son first.

I can't show understanding for something I do not understand, but I can show him that no matter what comes I will love him because God gave him to me.

My only suggestion - TALK TO YOUR SON.

And remember...GOD SO LOVED THE WORLD - that's ALL the world and its inhabitants.  And also remember that God's love is unconditional.

Praying for Him to work this situation out for you and your family.