DATING QUESTIONS

OK. Im 9months Out. I am starting to date. I has a few questions. I am an open an honest person. So, I hate when guys talk about overweight people because just a few months ago I was heavy. So, I let it slip a few times, but its redundate I say. Hey, I've lost about 82lbs  and I use to be that size. They smile and be "baby u look good" But it throws me through a loop!

I have a lot of pictures on social website so you can see the difference.

When did u tell people you were dating? Was it when u got serious? Or before?

I generally tell people sooner rather than later.  As I describe my life it just seems to fit in around the first date.  If someone makes a negative comment about overweight people I take that as a sign that this person may not be for me because they have to understand where I came from.

ok. thanks

I am like you - open and honest.  I will tell it in a heartbeat cause the mofos think you shady when you only order an appetizer and end up with a doggie bag anyway!  LOL

And I have 86'ed mofos who overdo the fat jokes - had one look at my before pics, bust out laughing and say WHOO you sho lucky you lost weight cause ain't no WAY I would have talked to your big ass before..........

To that mofo............. That's allllll I'm sayin!!

Girl - I dropped his ass - AFTER I had him buy me a big ass Coach purse......

You are straight up crazy!!!!!  LOL.  I haven't been able to log on for a minute and when I do I see this shiggidy.  Girl, yousa fool.  LOL.

So that I don't just hijack, I usually say upfront.  First dinner date usually.

Hey Brenda!!!!  Come on now - did you REALLY think you were gonna see anything different from ME????

LOL!!!! 

I'm pretty open about WLS too, but I don't just automatically talk about it in general conversation. 

I will discuss it when asked, or when an incident happens, like if we are eating and he questions my choice of food or the amount I've eaten.  Or I all of a sudden get sick after eating something.

If the time comes when I think I'm ready to take things further (xes) and he doesn't know, I'll tell him BEFORE the time comes because I don't want to have to explain in the heat of passion (LOL).  I also don't want him to have any unpleasant surprises   if he notices that my body looks less appealing without clothes.

I just informed my new guy.   We have been dating about a month and he thinks it is all good.

As Mack some what  pointed out,  when eating out on dates and you are eating like a toddler,  and you are getting looks "like,  "are you enjoying yourself"  LOL ?   I just feel compelled to share.  

I am 'who I am"  !