loss of a parent

Hello Everyone I have been gone for two weeks.  I lost my father 2wks ago.  i just returned to work today.  My question is how do you even begin to heal from this loss. I know I have faith that I will but right now it is hard.  I guess it would be different if he did not live with me.  I had both parents living with me.  I know it is hard for my husband also.  He loved my daddy dearly. Anyone who has went through this how did you cope?

Deitrice

One day at a time.....sometimes an hour at a time until without realizing it, I once again could smile again.

For a while, I was mad as hell at God, yes I said it. I was married at the time, my father-in-law was the evilest man on this earth, just the opposite of my father who would give you his shirt off his back. God saw fit to take my father at the young age of 51 but left that mean coon on this earth and I could not understand that until I finally figure, I don't blame God, I would want good folks around me as.  I am really sorry about your loss but no one can tell you how to deal with it.....try to remember the good times, but cry when you need to.

Thanks so much. 

With lots of prayer and support.  I lived with my mother when she passed on and all that knew her knew she was my #1 girl.  As the previous poster stated.  Take one day at a time and when the feelings get tough, learn to smile and remember him  Coping, Its been 9 years and I am still coping moving through life without my bestie friend.  Check out my blog if ya like. 

Thanks so much.  THis is why I love my oh family

trice i'm praying for you and i'm sorry for your loss.  i haven't gone through it directly but was an adult when i lost my grandfather, who hung the moon according to me.  verne's right, one minute, one hour, one day at a time.  it may never get less painful but the pain will get easier to manage, i promise. 

Thanks I am day by day minute by minute.  THanks

 I'm sorry for your loss, Deitrice.  The passage of time will start to dull the pain, but you will always miss him.  My daddy died when I was 12 and there have been times when I cried for him even after I was a grown woman.  

I was just talking to my husband about the subject of human mortality yesterday.  The longer we are on this earth, the more people we will have to say goodbye to.  It's a hard pill to swallow.  I try not to dwell on it, but it is a sobering thought.  It's also a good reason to live a fulfilled life to the best of your ability and to love hard while you have the opportunity.

You will honor your father by living the happy life he would want his baby girl to have.  You are in my prayers.   Again, I'm sorry for your loss.

you are so right.  Thanks for the eye opener.  sometimes we need to hear what we already know from someone else.  Thanks again.

Hey Ms. Pokie:
I am so sorry for your loss. I know the feeling of losing beloved parents.

My advice to you would be to grieve and don't be ashamed to cry, BUT while you are grieving don't stop your Life. Keep doing the things you would normally do...go to work and be your Best, do your family things as usual, DON'T Gain weight, Continue exercise. What ever You use as Benchmarks for success, make sure You are doing them; Why? Because when You have come to a place of acceptance of this loss, there will be an awareness that comes over You (like the fog lifting) and what You will need to see is that those Benchmarks stayed steady or improved.

You see, there is no "getting past" or "moving on" in the death of a Loved One. As time goes on You will remember only the beauty off that person...and even the arguments/discipline...will be cherrished and You will be grateful that that parent took the time to chastise You. You will, on occasion cry from rememberence of Your Dad...something You see, smell, hear will remind you of him; holidays, birthdays...will bring tears in the beginning but later on BIG Smiles. You will begin to feel a presence of pure Love, unconditional Love that only a Parent can bestowe on their child. You will begin to appreciate GOD's Mercy and the Love HE has shown by accepting into HIS care Your Loved One, for there is NO Suffering or Pain in HIS care...there is Rest. 
Be Well