*Hijack* on Wonkad's Rant about Monique

I saw Mo on Oprah a few weeks ago and she briefly talked about her weight loss and the husband's comments.  Whatever her motivation, I'm glad she has taken the steps to get healthy BUT......I agree with Kim B and Talisha!  She milked the Bigger is Better, I hate Skinny Bit@he$, Skinny Bit@he$ Can't Cook, Fat is Fabulous platform for all it was worth and it does seem very hypocritical to those of us who brought into that nonsense.   

But tell the truth BAF, wasn't there a time in your before WLS lives that you thought it was nothing wrong with being big and beautiful or fat and fabulous? Or was that just Me?? 

Of course,  what we gone be fat as hell with low self esteem.   If you big you learn to be fat and foxy, then when you get thin you can get real about what it was like to be big and leave that facade behind. 

I've been big all my life and hated it all my life. Her talking about skinny broads actually helped me to be a little more comfortable with myself. I'm still big, but back then I had very low self esteem.

I saw nothing wrong with being big and beautiful or fat and fabulous for other people... it just didn't work for me.  I think it didn't work for me because I wasn't always fat.  I packed on the pounds in my 30's so I had a number of years of slim and fabulous and that is waaaaay better than pleasantly plump for me. 

That's an interesting persceptive.  The closest I've ever been to being slim in my adult life was about 9 years ago and I was 200 lbs then.  I'm looking forward to the day when I can say and truly feel that being slim is waaaaaay better. 

My personal opinion there is NOTHING cute about being BIG. I have always felt the same way even when I was big.

Honestly I think there's a difference between being phat  and fabulous and super morbidly obese.

At my heaviest I was 356 and stood at just 5'3.   That wont cute or sexy.  I still had an attractive face.....but I was big and black.  And most of the time folks saw my weight and my " girls"  before they could see my heart or the fact that I had dimples.

No matter how I sliced it, flpped it or dressed it.  My weight was an hinderance.

Now that I dropped a considerable amount of weight,  and can shop for regular clothes in just about any plus size section anywhere. I feel and look much sexier.  And yet  Im still heavy but thankfully NO longer super morbidly obese. And get this - I havent stopped trying to lose more of this weight to get down to normal.

But we cant dictate what size someone has to get to in order to have their breaking point.
Weight,  is just as personal as the person thats attached to it.  

I dont care how her light bulb moment came....she has toddler twin boys that need their mother at the end of the day.  Better her husband tell her than some doctor right after a diabetes diagnosis.  

I never brought any of her cookbooks or skinny chicks are evil thingy cause I knew deep inside that none of that was true.  It was just her hustle to get to the top.  Now that she's there....she better take care of her health or else it will all be just a dream.  Like Biggie said    

Hi Pretty P.  I agree with everything you just said.

Hey Andrea..........I see you doing the thing  -work it pretty lady 

Yeah, everything that Plum said!