Dating Advice

Happy Friday Everyone!

My dating life has never been great but as I have gained more confidence along the way it has greatly improved.  My issue is that I am not used to dating more than one person at a time and I really don't know how to just sit back and enjoy.  I am used to seriously dating one person and being committed to them even when they are not committed to me.  I want to explore my options and enjoy myself but I need help from those of you who know how to do this.
Help!
Michele

Michele,

Relax and enjoy the moments.  I think the wrong turn many of us take is that we often believe that the person we meet and get along with is the one we need to devote our time and efforts towards.  I had to learn that not everyone is going to be THE one.  Having said that, the trick is to just enjoy the moments and experiences.  Just look at it as just enjoying an evening or an afternoon or whatever; look at it as comparison shopping.  Ur not going to buy the first pair of shoes you look at or the first car you test drive. 

Just have fun.  :)

Relax...Relate...Release! 

Woooosaaaaah!

Ok, now, just enjoy the ride and have fun.  No need to get serious with one, when you can have so much more fun meeting new people.  As long as you are being honest and aren't committed to one, go for it!   

relax girl and enjoy yourself until you have found the one you want to be committed to

 I am taking notes....I have a few phone conversations going...but have not started the actual dating yet. I's just a little scurred and conveniently too busy! Good question!

My Grandma used to be fond of saying, "It's a mighty poor rat that only has one hole"  In other words...not all men are meant to be kept so play the field until you find someone worthy of keeping...don't just bun up to have someone especially if they don't feel the same way.

Funny, Miz D.  My father says the samething to me about a poor rat only having one hole...somehow it doesn't sound that great when applied to us guys...are we rats with a need to invade various holes?  Never mind..I hear the damned jokes already. LOL

 I am used to seriously dating one person and being committed to them even when they are not committed to me.  I want to explore my options and enjoy myself but I need help from those of you who know how to do this.


You know, I can relate to that.  I didn't like dating more than one person at a time because it just didn't feel right for me.  I guess I was confusing "dating" with being in a relationship.  What I had to do was figure out what was comfortable for me so that I could go out and enjoy myself but still be able to feel good about myself as a person.  I set limits and stuck to them.  I met men and went out with them just to get to know them.  Sometimes I had fun and sometimes I met duds but I wasn't laying down with ANY of them. 

If you're a good woman you should have a good man.  The only way you can hope to do that is to take the time to get to know him and the strenght of his character.  Don't commit yourself to ANYBODY who is not commited to you or you will wind up miserable.

Just enjoy the company and attention.  Have a great time and above all just be honest with your dates.

I am "the up most" experienced dater,   (pre-op and post-op) divorced for 17 years.

I had an emotional relationship breakup last year,   enjoying friendship and dating only at the present time.