OT Question: Taking Advice

Hey Ms. Ro:
I have to admit that when I was younger, on some important stuff I did not heed (now and then) but I tended to listen to the people I trusted and stayed away from some BAD Stuff! Some would call Me an Old Spirit...had plenty of "Mother-Wit" and still do whenever I put this Education on the back burner when needed.

So, NOW, I'm more of a Listener, Heeder and Experiencer. As one gets older, you MUST be more eclectic because you must be able to Trust yourself and certain others as well as be able to take a risk (now and then).

ETA: I'm a True Scorpio, so I will always be a Risk Taker...they're just more calculated now.

I'd say I have somewhat of a combo thing going on...funny I was more of a heeder as a youngster

Now in my older age I tend to rely on my gut, inner voice, heart or whatever one wants to call it...its the times that I don't listen is when a situation becomes a larger lesson to learn

Scropio huh? Lawd you know yawl crazy right....lol have great sex just crazy....LOL

I just go down to the basement and jump out of the window.

What?

I may have to hurt  or injure you but I ain't hurtin' me. 

Advice are like opinions and you know what they say about opinions - they are like azzholes; everybody's got one and everyone thinks that everyone else's stink and not theirs.

And the church says what?!!!

We are once again here my brotha

3 criteria for me to seriously consider taking someone’s advice, especially on a serious matter.

- has my best interests at heart

- qualified (life experience, training, education, etc.)

- knows me well enough to anticipate at least some of my needs   

 

If their advice is counter to what I’ve been thinking, I am open to listening to their rationale because they might see something that I overlooked.  Sometimes I follow their advice, sometimes I don’t, depending on the cir****tances.

Oh Sue I love number 3 on your list of criteria....I think that is the most important factor when listening to someone

Isn't it funny how most of the time folks that don't really know you always got something to say about how you should handle a situation? LOL

Daaaaaaaang...Pops went deep on that.
I do listen to other folks' opinions...because I know me...when I make my mind up I tend to flip on the blinders. I do not always take it, but I stash what is said into the mental rolodex. I know I am stubborn and so hearing a different opinion can be helpful when trying to make up my mind.

Girl my Daddy is no JOKE! He is very very wise and believed in allowing his children to go ahead and make our own mistakes without judgement...you would never hear "I didn't raise you that way" out of my parents mouths...they have always trusted (like I do) the life process

I have to ask though Lena...do you ever feel like you miss out on things because you listen to other people? Have you ever missed out on something not following your gut?

When I say listen...I'm more on Kim's tip. I 'take it under advisement'...that doesn't always mean I follow it. You know I am a Libra so I can be indecisive!!! I find other viewpoints helpful when making decisions. Let's face it...other people have been down roads we'll likely never travel, might as well benefit from their experience, whether good or bad. There aren't many people I would truly FOLLOW...you know we have places where we have screwed up!  If I can think of one thing, I somewhat regret leaving the first college I attended. At the time I was going through a lot and my folks were on me to come home and regroup. I gave up a free education! And now I got hella loan bills!!! LOL  But I am also a firm believer in that life happens how it's supposed to...I busted my butt and finished anyway, and landed in a decent spot. I do wonder how much further I would have gone. I would love to return to school but can't afford it on my own at this point (to finish up grad school) and REALLY can't justify the expense of yet MORE loans.

^5....Lena, it MUST be the Libra in us!