Have you changed?

 Thanks for the info.  I've noticed that more people are starting to have this procedure and I was curious about it. 

 

You all make me laugh, even though I am having a bad day.  You crack me up.  Sop you up with a biscuit.  Lord have mercy.

I've always been stuck up cause I just know I'm too cute, obese or not.  At my age that probably won't change even when I my Black finally does crack.  I just have standards. 

Still, I can guaratee you that the biggest looser in any club will seek me out.  Its like puishment for being so vain and self absorbed. 

Perhaps I deserve it.  Naaaah, its cause I'm just too cute   they can't help but find me, lol. 

I feel that I may be changing a little but for the most part I have always been kind of stuck on myself...I always had standards and have the same if not more confidence than most of my smaller girlfriends...Growing up, people and family, always  reminded me how pretty I was (???) I did not take it to the head just kept it moving...My aunt once said to me, "You are already too much to handle to imagine when you lose your weight"...I know I am going to change more and hopefully it is for the better.

As for dusty old men, the carwash is the place..lol..It is funny as hell. I just shoe em the ring and tell em I'm married...

Oh, oh, oh...I SO can relate.  The ONLY men that (at least in everyday life) ever hit on me or talk to me or ask me out are old, crazy ( and I do mean crazy...talking to themselves, should be in an institution...CRAZY) dirty, stanky, toothless, or just plain...weird.  You know, not quite ready to be in the straight jacket, but still strange.  One man worked at Wal-Mart ( he was a butcher) and use to be a cattle rancher in Texas.  He actually told me that he'd like to pick me up ( literally) because he use to rope cows!!!  Okay??!!!  Is that some kind of F*cking compliment??!!  He thought I was so beautiful!  Compared to what???  Freakin' Bessy the cow??? 

I've come to this conclusion.... it's because I'm nice and so are you.  You will talk to the crack head, the stanky dude..whatever because you are kind hearted and that's not a bad thing.  I think most people don't take the time to even care so, when someone who is as BEAUTIFUL as you are takes the time to be kind, people who are...broken....are drawn to you, your inner, as well as outer beauty. 

You've not changed.  You are still the amazing women God made you to be.

Brenda

I firmly be

Funny in the good old US of A, old men are the ones bold enough to try to holla. As long as it's not rude or lewd, I smile & keep on going, if they get out of pocket with the comments,then it's on, as at work or in daily life, you are not going to disrepect me.   However, in good old Europe, whether you're fat or skinny, them men love them some sista's and ain't afraid to show it!  So, I get to walk around feeling appreciated & accepted and attractive no matter what my size & then I come home & reality sets in again.

At the low end of fat or the high end of fat, my standards are high and have never changed.  Thank God I have always loved myself enough to at least hold on to that.   However, my mama keeps telling me that I'm going to be a diva when I loose this weight.  She is more excited about this than I am.  But the weight loss will only strengthen who I am.   I will still be a compassionate, caring individual.  The plus sides, I will gain more confidence and be able to truly live again.
 I will never forget where I've come from & how easily I might find myself there once again, so I don't worry about vanity setting in.

I love older men. I love the lines that they throw and that old school swagga that they have. They have confidence...a most excellent trait! There's a DJ - Herb Kent that is the epitome of cool, heck he even titled his new book "Cool Gent". Gotta love them!