Found My Motivation

To Exercise and to continue eating properly... Okay mind you I am almost 5 months out and currently down 82 lbs and it shows... But anyway I have a co-worker ask me am I starting to slow down with my weight loss... I wanted to ask if she wanted me to but I just ignored her and advised that I had 13 months left of the "honeymoon phase" and approximately 65 more lbs to lose so you tell me if I am done... Then my girlfriend ask me if I am starting to slow down on my weight loss and I say well last week I lost 5 lbs so I doubt it... It seems as though people want you to fail and it is so annoying... I know of two "big girls" (one I do not speak to anymore) who started to eat right and exercise after my surgery... They do not realize that I was "on & poppin" before having WLS and did my thing and always kept myself on point... I encourage and motivate them and I do not know why people are sitting around waiting for me to fail... People are acting SO funny towards me... And like my fiancé always says "Boop, If they acting like this now, imagine when you are done losing, get your plastics, and etc, etc, etc."... My biggest encouragement comes from him and family...Wait this is the kicker: I even had a friend ask me, what if I gain all the weight back after having a baby...

The people waiting for me to fail is all the motivation I need right now. I plan on getting to goal and then some so people need to stop while they are still in the picture because I have no problem dropping people out of my life...

FYI: My BFF (size 4-6) who suggested that I get the surgery is my biggest chearleader...

Did any of you experience this behave from others and did it help you stay focused?

 

I hate that you are experiencing this.  Fortunately or unfortunately (depending on how you look at it), I didn't acquire any haters or anyone who wanted me to fail.  If anyone was "hating" on me, it went totally over my head since I was concentrating so hard on being the best Cookie that I could be.

All the best to you.

I am like you when people make comment like that - it just motivates me to be all I can be..

i like this post GorgeousIsa,only because I'm getting the same thing in a way. my weight loss is slow only 34lbs lost and I'll be 3 months out on the 27 of may.i take full responsibility for this and i now realize what i need to do. anyway, i get the "oh,you'll just gain the weight back",or if i dont take a Vit or drink water when they feel i should its"see,you cant even do what you supposed to do"not realizing that i may have already taken the damn vits!! or i may be within the time I'm not supposed to be drinking!!! i beat myself up because i know i dont workout like i should and when i vent,they smile and give me that "i told you so " look. my own fault because i know etter then to let a hater see me at my weakest(*****es!!)sooooo,Ive decided to prove them wrong,so in a sense, them doubting me,and like you said,waiting for me to fail,motivates me to do better. in addition to you and other ladies progress on oh!!! and although i got "dug into" before i still took the advice and i havent eaten rice or pasta since!!(just a sidebar)

I've had some sideways comments come at me lately, but shoot I always did lol. Some people will have something to say no matter what the issue at hand is. But I am getting the- you better not lose any more weight comments, which are funny to me too. I still got 30 more pounds to lose. I'm going for a comfy 10 as my goal. Right now I'm in a tight 12.

So we'll see what they say then!!! LOL But my husband has been more than supportive. We went down to the park yesterday with the dog so I could do my 3 miles. He got tired of waiting for me and went home, but came back with the car in case I fell out! LMAO He's never seen me run and was sooo surprised that I was still going when he came back. Said he's never been more proud. Now that's motivation!

Can't say that I had too many haters (didn't tell too many that I had surgery at the time) but I had

a few people that had to adjust to the new me. (the physical, me becoming mobile, confidence

increased ..... etc)  Sometimes our weight loss DOES work on other people's heads.   lol  Too

bad it Never works on our head.

You got it right though ........ let it motivate you!

GorgeousIsa;

Use the negativity to your advantage! That's my motivation! Everyone who says I can't do this or that!

You go girl!

Brush those haters off!  Karma is a dog and their negative energy will come back to bite them one day. 

You are doing the right thing by staying focused and doing your thing.  It is also a good idea to dump those that give you static.  This journey is about you and what is in your best interest, everybody else can be left in your dust. 

I have had a few make comments about how I am losing weight too fast and that it is not healthy.  As long as my doctor is happy with my health then so am I.  I have had a few try to sabotage by offering me foods that no one should eat let alone me, but I am not even interested and let them wolf it all down.  This is our chance to reach our goals and we should not let anyone hold us down. 

You are gorgeous - point blank period!  And unfortunately some people are less intimidated by and feel more secure around the pretty fat girl and than pretty skinny girl.  But that's their insecurities showing through -- it has nothing to do with you.  I would absolutely let that be my motivation.  

I have a big circle of girlfriends and that is part of the reason I have only shared it with 2 -- the 2 that have been the most supportive in other areas of my life and also they don't talk to run or with my other girlfriends unless it's at the event that I have.  I already know who is going to I give me problems and I am trying to prepare myself.  But I love all my girlfriends and would like for all of them to be supportive and happy for me but that is not my reality.

Good Luck!

Pretty lady all you can do is show them !

I wouldnt say a word.........let your progress, your body and new improved health status speak for itself. 

If  folks want to lose their minds,  cause you are losing  weight  then thats on them.

Keep on becoming the best that you can  be