Can YOU take a physical compliment?

Like when the opposite sex says you have a great body, your fine or how do you stay fit?

I feel like a fraud or I feel  like they are going to say something negative or start laughing at me. I can take the ohh your pretty because I have heard that one all my life. You know pretty face etc etc But seriously, I feel weird when someone says they like my legs,  arms or anything really physical about my body. Like I am hiding the fat girl beneath it all. What should you say to that sort of stuff? I put it out there but I feel like I am trying to proove I am not still that FAT GIRL by the way I dress and act. But in my head why can't I accept that some guy thinks I, ME, Stephanie has a great body,...WOW!

I am not joking at all I have some REAL body/head issues!!

i take the compliment and then throw in a diversion.

i'll say something like "why thank you...i'm just tryna keep up with you. one of these days i'll be as sexy as you are".

I do the same thing,.. or I will say yeah and point something out on me that I am trying to work on. But with men, I just say nothing and ignore it like its gonna go away.

Its not so much the your fine or your hott,.. but its the you have a great body or when they point out certain parts.

I feel weird!

Gurl - I FEEL YOU!!!!  Had a guy tell me that he could tell I take REAL good care of myself because I am so fit and don't look like I could have a 9 year old.......

I was like dude **** the 9 year old - I had a 32year old 200lb extra mofo on me!  LMAOOOOOO

Hell naw I can't take a physical compliment - that **** is WAY strange to me!!! 

I know, RIGHT!!.. I feel like they have an ulterior motive,..LOL!
whats wrong with us,..

The guy I've been dating is very complimentary all the time and I will admit, I initially had a very hard time and would bein pointing out my flaws when he would say something nice.  Its taken me months to just say thank you and then bite my tongue.

I guess maybe until I accept the fact and love my body flaws and all I will never fully accept those compliments?

But truly, some of them I can accept but when I think of women with nice bodies, my mind goes to Halle, Beyonce, and the girls in my hood that had them killer bods I don't think of me.

I think of my butt pads or my padded water bra and the skin/stretch marks. Everytime even if I am not wearing the butt pads I will normally have a body briefer on unless it's too low cut for one. So FRAUD  rings in my head!

I remember the first time my guy saw me and I wasn't fully clothed and he told me I was beautiful. All I could think of was all the scars, stretch marks, fat, and what not that make me hate looking at myself in the mirror somedays.  But when I looked at him and realized he was truly sincere and not trying to get a piece of ass it caused me to pause and think maybe I get so caught up that I don't seee what others can.

You've got to remember I still can't look at comparison pics of myself and see any changes in myself.  Someone once told me we all wear masks when facing the world, and I guess maybe its true.

Michelle thats good about your guy friend, we should all be so lucky.

I never knew that about the before and after pics yes you can see a difference but I know what you mean.

I never thought about the mask thing, maybe it is true.

we wear the mask the grins & lies
it hides our cheeks and shades our eyes
this debt we pay to human guile
with torn and bleeding hearts we smile

(c) the late great paul laurence dunbar