TO SEX or NOT !!!
Wow, thanks for posting this question. I have been wondering it as well....and feeling very self conscious about it. To be honest, I have been stirring clear of men for fear that if I got close and to a point of sex entering the picture....I had thoughts of scaring the bejesus out of him. This is one of the reasons why I have been so looking forward to plastic surgery....for me and my future partner. Great post and feedback!
On May 5, 2009 at 10:18 AM Pacific Time, MahoganyDreams wrote:
Wow, thanks for posting this question. I have been wondering it as well....and feeling very self conscious about it. To be honest, I have been stirring clear of men for fear that if I got close and to a point of sex entering the picture....I had thoughts of scaring the bejesus out of him. This is one of the reasons why I have been so looking forward to plastic surgery....for me and my future partner. Great post and feedback!You got that right Mahogany... I NEED to hear that they dont care too, because I've been scared to indulge...
(and you know that's a DOGGONE shame considering how far out I am...
girl you betta gon and get you a nut! LOL
lemme steal a quote from pkque.....
DON'T TRIP.
lemme steal a quote from pkque.....
DON'T TRIP.
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i know!!! sad aint it... 
My own experience pre-op was that, the very first time I was with someone who had had the surgery, to be honesty, yes for the first three seconds, I was taken aback by what I saw once she disrobed. I had never seen loose skin before at that point. However, I was really into the woman and the skin didn't make a difference.
Had it been someone I just wanted pure unadulterated sex and nothing but sex from, would it have made a diff then? I honestly can't say, but I didn't make a difference in that case. I think, ladies, its the personal preference of the guy you're with. Just like there are women who can't be with a guy who isn't well-endowed, but may look past that if she is really into the guy. Same thing.
Some guy who is going to overlook you because your body isn't perfect probably isn't someone you might want to be with anyway.
Had it been someone I just wanted pure unadulterated sex and nothing but sex from, would it have made a diff then? I honestly can't say, but I didn't make a difference in that case. I think, ladies, its the personal preference of the guy you're with. Just like there are women who can't be with a guy who isn't well-endowed, but may look past that if she is really into the guy. Same thing.
Some guy who is going to overlook you because your body isn't perfect probably isn't someone you might want to be with anyway.
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Thank you ... thank you .. thank you for your honesty.
I was just wondering what people really ... really think .. Under all that
Be confident .... Love yourself ... Get yours ... BS.
It is an issue whether it be in our heads or on our bodies in this case. Maybe not talked about but, not ignored. I wanted to know someones real feelings ... good or bad but, real live situations. How they really felt about it regardless if we are not suppose to care about it.
ITS THERE !!!
Thanks again for sharing.
On May 5, 2009 at 12:05 PM Pacific Time, Dalexis wrote:
My own experience pre-op was that, the very first time I was with someone who had had the surgery, to be honesty, yes for the first three seconds, I was taken aback by what I saw once she disrobed. I had never seen loose skin before at that point. However, I was really into the woman and the skin didn't make a difference. Had it been someone I just wanted pure unadulterated sex and nothing but sex from, would it have made a diff then? I honestly can't say, but I didn't make a difference in that case. I think, ladies, its the personal preference of the guy you're with. Just like there are women who can't be with a guy who isn't well-endowed, but may look past that if she is really into the guy. Same thing.
Some guy who is going to overlook you because your body isn't perfect probably isn't someone you might want to be with anyway.
Umm I read a bunch of post like this and normally I will just go off to the air... However, let me try to give you a different out look on it. First, if you don't warn someone about something like that you run the risk of realism,...
Meaning, you did not see that (skin) in person before and not only that you had no warning how do you expect someone to respond when they first see IT for the first time?,.. Hell, I look at my body everyday and I do not like the extra skin more so the stretch marks than anything does. I can not expect some guy to see it and act like it aint there when I did not warn him.
There should be a mention of it before things get to that point other wise you get an HONEST reaction. How many times have YOU and I said some effed up schitt when we saw something for the first time? Think (Uncircumcised penis, a larger than normal clitoris, an extra, extra small penis or extra, extra large) Sometimes you might react sometimes you don't. It does not make us not worth ones time it makes us human, flawed and honest. Now if after you told them and they act an @zz then you can say whatever.
And I do realize some self righteous so and so will say you should not be doing xyz outside of marriage but when you have walked in someone’s else’s shoes then you can tal****il then pray for those you JUDGE as sinners and keep it moving they/we have to answer to GOD not you!! D,..
Curry, I felt the same way a few months ago when I met my current boyfriend. Before surgery I was a very confident big girl but when my body started changing I began to worry about having sex with a new man. I just talked to my man about it and told him how I felt. He told me I didn't have anything to worry about and when the time came he was right. With his help and a little wine (lol) I didn't even think about it. It's never been an issue since. Good luck!
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