OTQuestion: Those That Have Loss Someone Close

Ro,

Continue to feel what you feel and live every day - in that day.  Don't dwell in guilt.  Rejoyce in the better times.

The loved ones I have lost, my Father, my cousin Donna (sister) and best friend Vanessa are never far from my mind.  In good times I think "Ah they would have just loved this!" Or Daddy would say, or what would she do now?  In bad times I talk to them...and yes I answer back cause I know what they would say.  It's been YEARS  23, 21 and 20 and I am not OVER THEM.  They never leave me.  I have good days and bad days - I always know (sometimes after the fact) why I am blue and why I am suddenly overjoyed.

It's HARD Babe.  Majorly hard.  Keep living your life in a way that honors your loss.  Keep loving and growing and feeling.  Grief is different for all of us.  Those who touched our lives and leave us leave a mark and if will forever be felt.  Sometimes in joy and other times in saddness.  Embrace each good day.

I Love you and Casey LOVED YOU MOST!!!

((((((((((((((((((((((((Sharon)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

I told my daughter today that she was very special because God chose her to have Casey, and that child touched soooooo very many lives its disgusting! We were really blessed..its just that our happiness makes us miss her more...even though I honestly believe had it not been for her passing we wouldn't be this high....how does one repay such a deed? Get what I am saying?

Now re-reading this thread I finally get it...my only obligation is to embrace the happiness

sorry for the rambling babe...you know sometimes that is what folks have to do....lol

Ramble on BaBe!!!!

It's theraputic.  Talk it out, cry it out laugh it out - do what you have to do.  It does get better - you just never forget or get over it.

(((( Ro )))  glad you a your daughter are moving thru the different stages of grief. I know for me I was stuck in anger and guilt stage for along time. somedays you can laugh and have some what of a normal life and other days you dont wanta get out of bed.

by no means do I know what it feels like to lose a child nor a Grandchild just to see you and your daughter able to become closer and turn this into something positive is a blessin

Internship with social services...WOW  she has come along way  congratulations  we only wish the best for our children some choose the long route but they eventually get there  

(((((((((((Rob))))))))))))))))) thank you babe....I love you!

Hi Ro!!   

perfectly normal feelings.  even though it took me a long time to get over my father's and my sister's deaths--its no longer every day pain. 

but like what happened to me last week, certain things can trigger it (for me its their birth or death dates, or even certain songs--to this day i STILL cannot listen to that 'sister' song from Set it Off--even though I love that movie=--I alway**** the mute button there...

I feel you on that...I was telling someone this morning that I don't like looking at baby pictures or commercials...I know it is going to be tough...but I have to say we have been so happy lately

I can feel you on this, I lost my significant other of 18 years last year in March.  I am moving on with my life but it so hard at times.  The dates of special events just put me in a depressing mood - I can feel myself getting sad and wonder to myself what is wrong and I think of the date and it will be something that links me to him.  I have had dreams where he is looking over me and telling me everything is going to be okay --- the same thing our 4 year old daughter then 2 at the time told me-  While her dad was in the hospital in a coma for 2 weeks - so look at me and say Mommie, Daddy says it's going to be okay.  I was so in shock that I asked her again what do you say and she repeated it again.
It's a hard road to go on but I remain strong and my favorite thing to quote is that 'What God has for me will be for me'. 
All I can say is  Keep praying, Keep the faith and know in your heart God will get you thru this.

(((((((((((((((((((((((Sharon)))))))))))))))))))))))))) thank you

Are you allowing yourself to date currently?

Yes, I am dating.   He is a nice guy and much younger than me lol but it's good.  I am enjoying the moments.