Vets, Newbies, In Betweenies......

Hmmm - VERY interesting question.  I have spent quite some time in my own introspection wondering if I know the answer to this - I have figured it out for ME - but everyone has their own 'tipping' point.

I knew my dude was 'it' and it was a wrap a while ago - I still fight it because I have my own demons I'm working on - but - quite simply - there's no one else in this world that I can be with.  I have dated other folk and corny as it sounds - I know that he completes me. 

Plain and simple.  It's just something you KNOW - not something you can plan.

Good answer. Good answer! I feel you on that! Yeah, I think you have to work on you first before you can truly let someone love you. I had to learn that and I'm still learning and working. Thanks for your input!

Ok, I'm like Marlo...acts of service...because that's how I am and I'm all about reciprocation. I want what I give and then some ...anywhoo...

I think I knew that my husband was the one the day he took me to get my hair done, grabbed a magazine and waited WITH me....I was like ok...ummm guys don't do that....and he did it more than once...but I had in an out hairdresser...not that all damn day shyt...buy some socks, cd's & a dinner for later hairdresser!

But also for me...I think...if you can't go a day without thinking of him...wanna call...see what he's doing...see something that  you know interests him and think of him or if he'd like it....not to stalker mode mind you but when that person is always at the forefront of your mind.

You still might wanna keep some lotion handy for those important occassions....lol  

Thanks Diva! Nice to meet u!

I feel like that ALL the time! I feel like such a SAP because this is NOT me AT ALL! I usually could care less and if several days went past and I hadn't talked to you I wouldn't cry at all! But now with this guy, I'm like uuuummmm, my phone hasn't rang??! ! WTF? lol...I'm a sad pup....

Oh well, I'm gonna see where it goes and just enjoy the ride(no pun intended ,lol)
(in my Shanene voice) I'm a Laaaadyyy!

Awwwww....you'll be fine!

I knew I was in love with my boyfriend....when my momma said it! She sat me down and gave me her speech. She said now Simone, you know that I believe its school before boys but the way I see your eyes twinkle around him and the happiness that radiates from you I know you love him, and thats good cause I can see he loves you two. When my momma said this, I had to do a .

I realized it for myself, when I realized that he meant everything to me. I couldn't go more than a couple of hours without hearing from him. When my phone would ring and his name was on it my heart . The true test, I brought dude home to meet the moms, no guy meets the moms unless its by accident. Shes too special to be meeting just anyone. And the icing on the cake was when I no longer thought about my first love (which before this point I always did, always wondered if it could still be) and didn't give a rats behind what he did and when he tried to get back with me I kicked homeboy to the curb.

Thats how I knew. So honestly.....your friends are probably right. They know you better than you know yourself sometimes. Embrace it!

Love...

won't hurt anymore.
Gotta black eye
Cause you won't
pick your **** up off the floooooor.

And...  Love...
Exciting and new.
Climb aboard,
We're expecting yoooooooooou."

Ayy yo,

I think that love is a very tricky thing for everybody these days because we all have high expectations of what we actually expect from a person but we always end up compromising the **** out of our "list" once someone comes along.  

You'll know when you know but don't mistake a compromise for the real thing.

I've been in love, REAL love twice in my 37 years.
 
The first time was with my deceased husband. He was an absolute southern sweetheart. I fell in love with him when my Pops told me that he liked him alot. POW - that's when the butterflies started in my stomach. He's been gone now for almost four years and I still faithfully go to the cemetary once a week to visit his crypt. That was REAL love.

The second time is now - with Mike. My falling for him was different. I knew it was love when he told me I was beautiful...not sexy, not thick, not fine, but beautiful. He's the first man that ever told me that.

Hey Ms. Kirby:

Yep, if you are not in Love, you have taken a major step through the door, because one Loves In Spite Of - NOT Because Of.

I knew I was in Love with My Partner when I looked up one day and I was "Flooded" with feeling because she is just sooo dayyyum good to Me (now understand, she sho nuff puts me in my place). I knew I Loved her when I was willing to argue with her, then afterwards we DISCUSS what hurts/the problem, we set parameters. See, I NEVER felt the need to argue with ANYONE I had a Relationship with before. If stuff happened, I'd just shrug my shoulders and walk away. With her, I/We actually care enough to WORK at THIS...and it is NOT Easy. Those discussions are like pulling teeth sometimes, but I don't want to lose her and that can happen if one does not fight for their Relationship. Also, one day we were out and I walked into the room and I saw her take a deep breath and her eyes actually lit up, I SAW her eyes dance and twinkle.

GOD I LOVE her, Thank-You GOD for Her! Let there always be a little argument between us and worth our time to discuss it!

I am more in love with my husband EVERY day! He speaks my same love language and it's also 'acts of service'.  I knew I was in love with him when we went to a park with my dear daughter. He helped her on the swings, ran around with her, held my hand.  I thank God every day for him!  HALLELUJAH - THANK YOU JESUS!!!!     

We've both been been married before and he stepped up by __first__ being my BEST friend then my lover, my sounding-board, the TRUE love of my life.  He was truly BALM TO MY SOUL.   
 
If you can PLAY together, you can STAY together!  We also have this thing for texting eachother during the day - silly little things that make us both smile. 

My first husband was a Minister who was also a beater/cheater and really messed up my heart and mind.       My wonderful husband now   is very kind, laid back, KIND, handsome, sexy, gorgeous, smart, a hunk, great w/people, great in public, wonderful in private, sturdy, funny, stocky, smells great, KIND, wonderful, positive attitude, etc.etc. 

My family still comments about how God brought us together and it's a PERFECT match.  Did I say HALLELUJAH, THANK YOU JESUS already??? 

P.S.
Sorry to rant but...I must say for the record, if there are ANY red flags, (lying about stupid things, money issues, secretive about phone calls, going to the "store" and coming back empty-handed, etc) trust yourself to _TRULY_ acknowledge them and STOP where you are!  Don't move forward until those things are TOTALLY resolved!!!!!!!!  P.L.E.A.S.E. HEAR WHAT I'M SAYING!!!    There is nothing wrong w/saying "You are not the man for me, keep it moving".

Things that bug you beforehand will only bug you MORE once you're together 24x7.  There may be some things that you want to change about him or yourself - but, true love will love you in spite of your shortcomings and see the lovely person within.  Didn't give myself enough credit w/"Beater-Cheater-Boy" and ended up hospitalized, pregnant and bankrupt.

BUT...GOD IS SHO>>>NUFF>>>GOOD!!!!