The secret to the game

hey Double Ayy!!!!!

I ended up with my dude through accident.  I chased him for years - he ran and refused to commit.  I stopped, walked away - and was ready to move on with life when HE came to me saying he wanted to commit and move forward. 

so I don't know the secret - that shiot just happened. 

Mack Mama - "my main sista from anotha mista; don't bring da drama or she'll get wit cha!"

Oh I know the what the dayum secret was in your case - Like The Ohio Players used to sing, to him that coochie must've been:

"FI-YA!"  (Doomp, doomp, doomp   Doomp ta doomp)  "FI-YA!"

Seriously though, sometimes a brotha needs a moment to sit and reflect how much a woman means to him.  During your little break he may have done just that.

funny - cause that's exactly what he said he did - when he came back around and saw I was ready to move on - that he would see me GO for real - he couldn't let me get away and he stepped his game up.

funny tho - when he finally came back around, he had to CHASE me and get me to settle down - cause I was ready to get back in the hunt for real!!!  LOL

Dammit....couldn't you think of a topic that most of us, speaking for myself, could contribute to? I was so looking forward to a little stress relief this am....as it stands I will just take notes....if I knew the answers...I would have a man, be a millionnaire and not LURKING here all day long in hopes of getting that one clue that can let me know what I have been doing wrong all these years. In my best Florida Evan's voice....DAMN, DAMN, DAMN......LOL!  


But for real though...I think you should revise your title to "The secret game to acting like a woman who can catch a good man"....

Thanks for posing the question...now let me sit back and take notes.....

ETA: I like Faith T's spin on letting the man catch u....I guess its not really about the catching.  Thats probably the mistake most woman make....chasing.  I guess for me I am more interested to know what are the clues that you have found Mr. Right and not some fraud in disguise.... It just seems that there is so much game playing going on. I am to the point, I don't even want to take the time to be quite honest. 

Dammit....

How did you know the nickname my mama has for me?

I was so looking forward to a little stress relief this am....

I was so looking forward to all the top-heavy women of BAF to take their shirts off and post pics of their "gurrrls" on the board this a.m.  I guess we're both disappointed huh?

as it stands I will just take notes....

Thief!  Give those notes back.

if I knew the answers...I would have a man, be a millionnaire and not LURKING here all day long in hopes of getting that one clue that can let me know what I have been doing wrong all these years. In my best Florida Evan's voice....DAMN, DAMN, DAMN......LOL!  

If I knew the answers I'd write a book, become a millionnaire, develop a drinking habit and lose all of my new money chasing pretty women with loose morals and low-self esteem....DAMN, DAMN, DAMN...

But for real though...I think you should revise your title to "The secret game to acting like a woman who can catch a good man"....

No.  I don't wanna. 

Well....thanks to the advice of other folks on BAF....I was not drinking when I read this......almost bit my tongue though....but the monitor is safe!!! LOL! 

While I didn't read the post that Sunsheyen wrote, I did read Steve book. It was a good read and something that I didn't take to heart, however there were some good points in it.

For instance, If a man introduces you as This is Kerbi  instead of  This is my girlfriend Kerbi. 

also the point of setting a date after a man proposes, I think those along with a few others were valid and good points.

I don't care what color you are if you love someone and they make you feel good I don't see what the color of my skin has to do with it. This whole world is a melting pot! No one is fully one race no matter what they say!

Ms. Kerbi,

Hello I don't I ever saw you post!! I totally disagree with this statement.
 
For instance, If a man introduces you as This is Kerbi  instead of  This is my girlfriend Kerbi. 

My husband  always introduced me as "Rhonda" in the three years we dated. I never received a  title until we married now I am "WIFE". I was the same way he was always "Reggie" not my BOYFRIEND.

I hear ya both on this one, because if (in Kerbi's case) the guy introduced her as "This is Kerbi..." then he could be referring to her "as in the 'Kerbi' I was gushing about and talking about non-stop..."  However, if he says (in Rhonda's case) "This is Rhonda..." without any pep or zest in his voice then he could be taking things for granted.

Just my $.02. 


Okay...  What's for lunch; I'm hungry? 

While I didn't read the post that Sunsheyen wrote, I did read Steve book. It was a good read and something that I didn't take to heart, however there were some good points in it. 
 
Eh...  That nicca was aiight but he ain't no Double_Ayy! I'm just sayin'

For instance, If a man introduces you as This is Kerbi  instead of  This is my girlfriend Kerbi. 

See the old way a sista would act in that case is she would get loud right then and there and say something like, "Hol 'dup, Muthafuggah...  Oh so I ain't **** but Kerbi to you now huh?  Oh.. Oh.. so I'm supposed to just be Kerbi tonight when you WANT to try and get some huh?  Nicca, don't even try and play me like that..."

But now, after the book, she is to quietly make a note and stop seeing him a day or so later.  Yeah, okay... 

"I don't care what color you are if you love someone and they make you feel good I don't see what the color of my skin has to do with it. This whole world is a melting pot! No one is fully one race no matter what they say!"

Holy Transvestite, Batman!  One minute we're talking about one thing and the next minute we're talking about something totally different.  I don't get it.