Need some help...male input & parents...please.

I can't do the other parent thing--because then I will end up slapping someone's parent. 

I have one of those too. He put up with a lot of stupidity and would simply walk away.  Ok I know that it takes a lot to tick my kid off and have witnessed the explosion when it occurs.  However, when it came to these boys I didn't understand it.  I even let him know that I wouldn't be angry if  he dealt with it....but he continued on.

It didn't  come to a head until one evening my son had his little brother in the tot lot and the boys in question pushed his little brother.  It was at that point that my son kirked and dealt with the matter in such a way the group of boys were scared not to be nice to him. I guess we don't see everything.  Maybe to them it was stupid and not worth their time...however in this case touching his brother was an "O hell naw" and butts had to be kicked?????

Just let him know that you are there to support him but let him deal with it the way he sees best?

Thanks!  I guess I just need to sit back and wait.

WHEN MY SON HAS AN ISSUE WITH ANYONE (WHICH IS VERY RARE CAUSE HE'S MR. CONGENIALITY, WE CAN'T GO ANYWHERE WITHOUT HIM MAKING A FRIEND) I ALWAYS GO TO THE ADULT IN CHARGE OF THE SITUATION CAUSE HE'S ONLY EIGHT.

HE IS IN KARATE AND ALREADY THINKS HE CAN USE IT INSTEAD OF LETTING ME KNOW WHATS GOING ON AND THINGS GET OUT OF HAND SOMETIMES.  KIDS CAN GET HURT BAD IF THEY FIGHT, THE LAST THING I WOULD WANT IS FOR SOMEONE TO PRESS CHARGES CAUSE MY SON BROKE ONE OF THEIR BONES.  

WHEN HE GETS OLDER IT MIGHT BE DELT WITH A LITTLE DIFFERENTLY BUT I WANT HIM TO REMAIN WHO HE IS AT ALL TIMES CAUSE WHATEVER IT IS WILL BE DEALT WITH ONE WAY OR THE OTHER.

I have the same problem. My soon to be 10 y/o is getting bullied at school. Now, he has been taking karate for 5 years. He is very strong and muscular for his age, but he doesn't want to fight. I told him if he hurts that boy bad enough he will leave him alone for good. Now, I know he has started fighting back because he gets a behavior report daily from school. He was afraid to show me one day because it said he was fighting. I have to explain to him again and again, I don't care if the school is upset, I am not, you have to defend yourself and you better defend yourself.

If he is having to fight everyday...why not go speak to the school instead of approving that he act out?  Surely you have hope that a college will pick up your child in the future.  Won't happen if you allow him to parent himself (fighting everday) thus being another black boy labled.

Hmmm, don't think I said he is fighting everyday. However, I have already talked to the school and nothing has happened. I have had conversations with the principal and the teacher and they are very much aware of this situation. I am very involved and am at the school twice a day. Furthermore, the issue is that if he is being attacked then he should defend himself. The only thing that is left for me to do and I will be doing it if things don't get resolved soon is to have a conversation with this child's parent mediated by the school. He just returned from spring break this week and has not had any issues this week. I'm really not sure why you think I said he is fighting everyday, maybe you want to reread my post.

This is as much of you message that I got, don't really care to know what I missed

"Actually I read very well....and considering you joined the post your sarcasm was unnecessary because I truly don't know or care about you and your situation. Just offered a suggestion...you know as is..."

I am going to say this and be done with it. I have a right to join the post and offer my opinion, I am a parent and my opinion stands. There was no sarcasm in my post, just stating the facts of what I posted. You made a lot of assumptions and came at me sideways and judgemental.  Now, if you don't know or care about me and my situation then why even respond to my post. It really had nothing to do with you.

I don't have a problem with you and I don't do drama so I am going to leave this alone.