Thinking again ~from JusChng post~

Good question DeeDee. I think what you listed are those things that make a good mom.  You sacrifice and do without in order to put your kids first.

But what about your sanity?! Sometimes I think I am sacrificing my sanity ~sigh~ BTW, the pills are the damn bomb!

Eh...sanity, that's overrated!  But I'm glad you're getting some good sleep.

Being a good mother or parent for that matter is exactly what you mentioned, putting the child's needs before your own.  Sacrificing you're wants and needs for them.  Everything else is icing.

Yeah, but sometimes I want to be sooo selfi****hey never understand I want "me" time....don't knock on my door! Don't bother me! 'Specially the youngest one...~sigh~ I go to go skrait ghetto mommy on her. ~but I think I'm still a good mom LOL~

Breakfast does not make a good mother. If it does, Child Protective Services need to come get my chirren. 

I have things here they can prepare themselves. And if we really really late...I keep granola bars in the car.
They eat err' morning...something they can prepare for themselves and my two at home are 6 and 8.  I even cooked for them when they had to take some kind of test. Teacher said they had to have a good breakfast. Hate it when they say stuff like that cause kids ack like it is a homework assigment.

If I were rich I would still have the 3 I have and no more. Why? Chirren take more of my time than they do my money. And they would be runnin on my expensive carpet...And when I wanted to travel, I would still have to drag dem chirren around...
Someone said to me once, "You throw away enough food to feed one more." This may be true unless it is a male child and then he turns about 8. After that...they need to work to be sufficiently fed!!! 
It aint about the money. It is the time it takes to be a good mother. Do you know how hard it is to ensure they have healthy things they can prepare for themselves? I have to shop diligently to make this happen!!!

You are a great mother Dee. And you know it. 'Sides you was reared right.

Nia, but peep this....my moms cooked bkfast for us every morning...even if it was just oatmeal....cheese toast and milk....she had us bkfast every morning....and ret now dis day, she still do bkfast! 

I keep cereal, fresh fruit, pop tarts, toaster struddles, waffles, cinnamon toast, microwavable sausage....cinnamon bread, bagels....I keep food in here for them. They love yogurt and fruit for bkfast. I just don't have time to cook grits and bacon erry mawning, I hafta be at work at 7:30.

Dey betta drink a cup of coffee like me LOL ~no really, I eat and I am going to do better to make them some cheese eggs and smoke sausage~

I know I ain't as good as my moms....never will be, but I'm okay....trying to be like you, Doll ~smooches~

For me it's if you have prepared your child to get out there in the real world and that child proves to be successful.  It's the daily sacrifices and struggles that you go through, it's the tough lessons of love that are taught, the ways that you teach a child even though the child doesn't know they are learning.  It's showing the child love even and compassion even when they don't deserve it.  It's allowing the child to see you are human and everyone messes up.  It's the love you have in you and the ability to love someone way more than you love yourself or anything you could ever imagine loving.  My momma always said the proof is in the pudding.  You see how well you did as a parent when your child grows up and starts a family of their own.  If the same lesson you taught them as a child shines through them as an adult, then you're good.
There's no amount of money that can buy that.  Being a good mom is passed on from generation to generation. 

WOW---thanks....sometimes, I think I tell my kids too much, but maybe I don't. The world is faster no than it was in the 80s. They need to be prepared!