OT: Overcoming Horrible First Date

Ok, a friend asked me this question and so I thought I would turn it over to the BAF soothsayers, LOL.

If you went out with a guy (Blind date) and he made an amazing impression on you - looks, conversation, attitude, financials , but you were nervous or uneasy so you didn't really let him get to know you (the real you), what would you do.  Would you just wait to see if he called or contacted you or would you call him or contact him first?

Would you explain or try to go out on a second date?


Alright, let me hear it so I can get back to my friend.

My 2 cents -
I'd let him do the calling, chasing, etc.  If it's meant to be, it will be.  (Easier said than done, I know).    Then again, why were you...(I mean your friend)...so nervous? God made you fabulous, let the whole world know!!! 

That is what I don't know because she is a beautiful girl with a great personality.  She said she was taken a back by how much of her criteria he fit and was just uneasy.  I am sure if she showed him her true self, he would have fallen for her.

LOL - so do you REALLY have a 'friend' or is this YOUR problem???  you know WE are good for posting OUR shiot and blaming a FRIEND...... LMAOOOOOO

I would call ole boy myself - but then - I have HORRIBLE track records on dating so what I say is probably what you should NOT do.......

IF he calls - definitely DON'T act crazy - and admit to the nerves when you talk.

now - flip side is homie coulda wrote homegirl off - but - if she look even KINDA good - he's going to call again JUST for the booty - so she got another shot..... LOL! 

This is a friend, but a really good one, that i LOVE like myself so I posted to BAF.  I don't have a good dating record either so I hate to respond.

well, you (oops...I mean "your friend") should have already called and thanked the guy for the date by now.  Now, you (I mean "your friend") should wait for him to call.  If he does call, and the vibe feels right, then by all means give him another shot on a second date.  Depending on how long ago the first date was, if he hasn't called by now then clearly he isn't interested and both of you (I mean them) should just keep it movin'. 

You are crazy!!!!  It really isn't me!!!!  Their date was last night, do you think she should have called already today?

If "I" really did enjoy the guys company and was interested in spending more time with him, then "I" would call and thank him and let him know that I had a good time and if the feeling is mutual, then he or she should initiate a 2nd date.  If she is really not interested then hopefully she thanked him at the end of their date last night and pray that he doesn't call her anymore. 

Makes sense.  I wouldn't call or email or text.  But I am old fashioned in some things and think that if a man wants to talk to you he will call you.

Take the Advice of Mr. Steve Harvey in his book "Act like a Lady, Think like a Man"
Let the brotha do the calling if he doesn't then "He's Just Not that into You"....I mean... your friend.