I have a question:
Let me say I really don't like confrontation - even w/ my sometimes loud ass... at work, leave me alone, and I'm good... And I'm focused on my ish, damn yours. Your stuff has nothing to do with mine.
BUT!!!
Well, here's why I've done it:
1st of all, I see why growing up I didn't have many female friends (used to say I don't roll w/ b****es b/c they're messy as hell). I preferred to hang w/ the fellas.
Now, if I'm cool w/ a chic, there's no beef. But for that one or two skanks that works my nerve or we don't get along, or she's knived me before, then yeah, I'll say something - not constantly - usually after the ded has been done and I'm venting.. I have an exfriend who I got the job she has now (she's since been promoted. Me? Same spot.) she took a machete to my back so bad that 1. I'm not eligible for a promotion 2. not eligible for a raise 3. almost got fired. So yeah, I talked about the lil hoebag. After she got promoted, I stopped, b/c it seemed everyone found out what happened and I didn't want any heifers saying I'm jealous. I say hi to her and keep it moving. Can I say I WAS her baby's godmom? I didn't christen her, so it wasn't official.
My remarks are usually she think she's too much or so slick you wouldn't catch it off teh bat. I don't do it that often, and like I said, just to those who've wrong me. I'd never spread gossip about someone or call someone ugly, get totally malicious, etc (had too much of it happen to me - so much so I still believe i'm not... well, that's another story.)
No beef? No words. But I am working on it. But I don't have a great filter, so sometimes it just comes out. Most time, I'm venting about how the skeezer done me wrong. Luckily, those events don't happen much...
BUT!!!
Well, here's why I've done it:
1st of all, I see why growing up I didn't have many female friends (used to say I don't roll w/ b****es b/c they're messy as hell). I preferred to hang w/ the fellas.
Now, if I'm cool w/ a chic, there's no beef. But for that one or two skanks that works my nerve or we don't get along, or she's knived me before, then yeah, I'll say something - not constantly - usually after the ded has been done and I'm venting.. I have an exfriend who I got the job she has now (she's since been promoted. Me? Same spot.) she took a machete to my back so bad that 1. I'm not eligible for a promotion 2. not eligible for a raise 3. almost got fired. So yeah, I talked about the lil hoebag. After she got promoted, I stopped, b/c it seemed everyone found out what happened and I didn't want any heifers saying I'm jealous. I say hi to her and keep it moving. Can I say I WAS her baby's godmom? I didn't christen her, so it wasn't official.
My remarks are usually she think she's too much or so slick you wouldn't catch it off teh bat. I don't do it that often, and like I said, just to those who've wrong me. I'd never spread gossip about someone or call someone ugly, get totally malicious, etc (had too much of it happen to me - so much so I still believe i'm not... well, that's another story.)
No beef? No words. But I am working on it. But I don't have a great filter, so sometimes it just comes out. Most time, I'm venting about how the skeezer done me wrong. Luckily, those events don't happen much...
I have an @$$h*le, therefore I have an opinion. or two... or forty
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I don't have that problem---I have FEW friends---I love my *****es.....but Dedee don't deal with skank asse TRICKs!
Envious, skank asse tricks are the one who feels the need to be competitive b/c they are not secure with their PERSON, their who!
Envious, skank asse tricks are the one who feels the need to be competitive b/c they are not secure with their PERSON, their who!
I focus not on my disabilty; my focus is on my ABILITIES.
(Dedee, 2009)
My hearing impairment ENABLES me, not disables me.
(Dedee, 2008)
~Dedee
So, uh, Dedee? Tell us what you REALLY, TRULY think, lady. LOL
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I've noticed that it's all about insecurity and not being content with who you are as a person (inside OR outside).
We women 'check out women' all the time (what she's got on, who she's with, how her kids look, etc/etc). I am still 26/28 but workin' with what I got & making sure I'm put together & lookin fly whenever I leave the house!
Whenever I see a 'larger-woman' OR any woman doing her thang & walking in confidence, I am VERY happy for her! Then there are some little pip-squeaks who think they're all that physically...BUT...don't use the brains God gave them. Don't hate - appreciate!
P.S. And it's not just Black women it can be a problem in all ethnic groups.
We women 'check out women' all the time (what she's got on, who she's with, how her kids look, etc/etc). I am still 26/28 but workin' with what I got & making sure I'm put together & lookin fly whenever I leave the house!
Whenever I see a 'larger-woman' OR any woman doing her thang & walking in confidence, I am VERY happy for her! Then there are some little pip-squeaks who think they're all that physically...BUT...don't use the brains God gave them. Don't hate - appreciate!
P.S. And it's not just Black women it can be a problem in all ethnic groups.
"I would rather be what God chose to make me than the most glorious creature that I could think of; for to have been thought about, born in God's thought, and then made by God, is the dearest, grandest and most precious thing in all thinking." by George MacDonald
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March 2009 - 316
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THE WORD (HATER) IS SO OVA RATED.. I CALL THEM FANS CAUSE THEY CAN BLOW ME ANYTIME YA DIG LOL.. BUT NEVER THE LESS I CAN CARE WHO SAYS WHAT ABOUT ME CAUSE AT THE END OF THE DAY I TAKE CARE OF ME AND MINES AND THATS ALL THERE IS TO IT. BUT I ALWAYS BEEN A STR8 TO THE POINT WOMAN TELL IT IN UR FACE GOOD OR BAD. LIFE IS TO SHORT TO WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT YOU. PLUS I DONT NEVER LET A PERSON RENT SPACE IN MY HEAD GIVING A PERSON THAT MUCH POWER IS UNREAL.
To be honest....I think we focus too much on why people do negative things.
We are all multi-faceted and come from different backgrounds. Understanding that ...it is easier for me to not be easily offended, nor distracted by the actions of others unless I feel I could be in physical, emotional or mental danger. Then my recourse is to immediately separate myself from the assault.
I've come to the place where i let people be people, both men and women (learned that from my mother) The only thing I care about is how respond to them. At the end of the day, no matter the situation, I want to know that I did my best to contribute to peace, walked in integrity and maintain a strong character in which my children, husband and I can be proud of.
Sometimes I miss the mark, but when I do, I show myself mercy as I show others when they mess up, talk about me, look at me with disgust and etc. I dont practice dogging others because I try to find the good in everyone and if I can't...I simply move on without smearing names and characters.
We are all multi-faceted and come from different backgrounds. Understanding that ...it is easier for me to not be easily offended, nor distracted by the actions of others unless I feel I could be in physical, emotional or mental danger. Then my recourse is to immediately separate myself from the assault.
I've come to the place where i let people be people, both men and women (learned that from my mother) The only thing I care about is how respond to them. At the end of the day, no matter the situation, I want to know that I did my best to contribute to peace, walked in integrity and maintain a strong character in which my children, husband and I can be proud of.
Sometimes I miss the mark, but when I do, I show myself mercy as I show others when they mess up, talk about me, look at me with disgust and etc. I dont practice dogging others because I try to find the good in everyone and if I can't...I simply move on without smearing names and characters.
Sounds like HIGH SCHOOL to me!! I'm too old for that schitt!!!
Yes I agree it does happen but I do not under any cir****tance play those games.
I don't care what a sistah has got - what I've got makes me happy.
I don't give up my personal life to anyone so that they can pick it apart and pass judgement. I don't judge and choose NOT to be judged.
I LOVE my fellow sister unconditionally.
I can not change their cir****tances and they can not change mine.
If a sistah is rockin her game I give major props to her - compliments, respect acknowledgement and if she is not I step back and let that sistah Do HER.
But then again....I'm A GROWN DAYUMN WOMAN.
Yes I agree it does happen but I do not under any cir****tance play those games.
I don't care what a sistah has got - what I've got makes me happy.
I don't give up my personal life to anyone so that they can pick it apart and pass judgement. I don't judge and choose NOT to be judged.
I LOVE my fellow sister unconditionally.
I can not change their cir****tances and they can not change mine.
If a sistah is rockin her game I give major props to her - compliments, respect acknowledgement and if she is not I step back and let that sistah Do HER.
But then again....I'm A GROWN DAYUMN WOMAN.
Peace & Blessings, Sharon
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