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I had an old boss that once said during an evaluation that the quailty he admired most about me was this...I have a way of telling people the complete truth and then in turn getting them to make changes or do exactly what I want them to do without them even realizing what just happened
Like Kim said...it not what you say but rather how you say it!!!I really enjoy these thought provoking questions
Why, thank you, Tanya.
I feel there is nothing wrong with stimulating conversation that DOESN'T include drama or sex for a change.
"When Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept for there were no more worlds to conquer." Plutach. Not true, for there are always more worlds to conquer.
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"When Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept for there were no more worlds to conquer." Plutach. Not true, for there are always more worlds to conquer.
www.myspace.com/dalexis863
~Shani~
I've been pudgy, chubby, thick, and now fat........Imma give thin a go round!!!
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It IS about how you say things.
"When Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept for there were no more worlds to conquer." Plutach. Not true, for there are always more worlds to conquer.
www.myspace.com/dalexis863
Thanks for your comment, Michelle. :)
"When Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept for there were no more worlds to conquer." Plutach. Not true, for there are always more worlds to conquer.
www.myspace.com/dalexis863
Anyone who "seriously know Cassie" know the first thing I ask when someone wants my opinion is "do you want me to talk or do you want me to listen?" Most people say...tell me your honest opinion and I do and sometimes its something that may hurt their feelings but I did ask upfront what exactly you want from this conversation and they know I'm not saying anything to purposely hurt their feelings.
I've never gone out of my way to purposely hurt anyone's feelings as I'm not that type of person...but I think if more people are honest with folks there's not room for BS. When I need to really talk to people I have a select few that I turn to who I know will give it to me straight...no BS, no sugarcoating and their not trying to hurt my feelings.
So...I say all that to say...some folks can't handle folks being honest with them because and that's why I keep those folks out of my circle and continue to delete them when I realize they fit the criteria.
Thank you for your frank response. I guess what it comes down to is the difference between honest criticsm and just being mean for, perhaps, what may be seen as self-gratification.
I find that I am honest to the point of being "brutal" at times, myself. I find sometimes that in order for someone to actually hear what you are saying as opposed to reacting to how you say it, I try, not so much to sugarcoat, but as to be constructive with it.
For example, if I were to say to Person A, "You know, you are really fugging up..." , I would also say how and why they were fugging up, and, more importantly, what one might possibly do / try to rectifiy a situation thru possible discussion.
For me, someone can be a brutally honest as they want to, but if no solution is forthcoming, why bother? That is the reason I pick and choose who I want opinions from. Total honesty if fine, but if there is no CONSTRUCTIVE critcicsm behind it, then, to me, its worthless.
"When Alexander saw the breadth of his domain, he wept for there were no more worlds to conquer." Plutach. Not true, for there are always more worlds to conquer.
www.myspace.com/dalexis863
