How do you know your "true" size or weight?

I've read blogs or talked to people that say they wouldn't want to be "thin" and some  finishes the sentence with "like you" (which I don't take as a negative most days) but I know that God made us all in his image and everyone is not suppose to be thin its just not natural and  compound that with WLS how do you know when you've hit your sweet spot? When all the charts and studies say you're overweight? 

I o course don't have that problem since I'm as straight as a damn board except for my stomach so I was one of the ones that the BMI is pretty much made for but most women aren't especially women of color. So how did/do you decide what's your true weight?

My true weight is 15lbs lower than my current weight.  Period.

HAHAHAHHA!!!  Seriously - I don't think we are ever satisfied.  I am up to 195 right now - but my 10s still fit fine - go figure. 

As for size - my true size is one size smaller than whatever I am wearing.  I am in 10s now, i want 8.  When I was in 8, I wanted 6. 

LOL...I'm pretty content right now with my weight but hell I was content 10-20-25 lbs ago so I'vve just kinda let it "do it".  I like it right here but I think I looked a little more filled out at 170 but  it is what it is.

I justify it saying that my skin on my stomach weighs at least 5 lbs so that 5 don't count lol and if I pulled my stomach up I'd be in a good size 6-8 as oppose to 8-10 but hell I'm 5'10 do I REALLY need to be smaller than a 6? I would say helltodanaw!

I'm still confused about my sweet spot. I hit 179lbs yesterday and I'm ready for some size 10s. I think my goal of 145lbs is going to make me too skinny but I'm not satisfied with where I'm at.

I will probably settle on my true weight when more of my family start to talk about my bobblehead.

I feel ya the funny thing is my family talk about my collar bones more than a bobblehead. I think that is what freak most people out about e is they are so pronounced lol.


I honestly thought that 165-170 was going to be "too small" when the NUT told me that and now at 160 I'm loving it NOW she talking about 150 and I'm like B you crazy! I don't have enough fat to get down to 150 without looking like somebody's terminal patient.

Collarbones! Collarbones! I am so loving them!

That's how I feel....where is the weight going to come from? What I had for an arse is long gone. The twins are beginning to disappear.  The thighs are on their way out now. I don't want to have that "look".

WTF are collarbones?  I sent an APB for them biotches so long ago, the FBI done gave up looking...

I haven't seen them clowns in years. I do remember them!  oh, they were a sight to behold.  That and my slender neck, my lovely shoulderblades (though they were quite bony)... the toned back, flat stomach, graceful toned arms...

These biotches have been on hiatus long enough! I will throw my body a Welcome Home party when all is said and done.


BTW - I know I was ok @ 180- b/c I was still small @ top.  but hell no.  I think when I do start, 140-150 will be my sweetspot. I remember and have pics at many different weights.

Well everyone has their on self image.  Some people want to be a size 2, for me I will be very comfortable when I reach a size 12 or 14..(no less).  My start weight was between 321-325, I'm about 292 today and still have a long way to go.  I  want to lose 100-125, putting me around 200.  When I tell people that, the 1st thing they say is "you will still be fat"......I'm a southern girl and I've never been thin. I'm only 5'2, but I wear 3 or 4 inch heels on a daily basis.....for the height.  With my shape, I size 12 would be perfect for me.

I guess then the follow up question is if you're 5'2 and want to be a size 12 what if your body wants to be a size 8 or even a size 4 what then? Do you sabatoge urself (eating the wrong foods not working out) to stay where you're more comfortable?

Honestly, I can't even fathom being a size 4.  I will do what I have to do to make sure I don't reach a 4 or 8 for that matter.  I made that very clear to my Dr. before I had surgery.  I'm not saying that I will start eating the wrong stuff, because I never want to destroy my body as I have for my enough adult life.  I have 2 sisters that take weight boosting drinks, so there are other options....other than eating the wrong foods.  My hips and butt are wide as Interstate 10 so I don't think I will go pass a 12.  My 13 yr old daughter is shaped just like I am, she is not overweight, very active in sports..... she wears a 11/12 juniors because of her hips and butt.