O/T - My LAST question

rinaalston
on 4/8/09 5:08 am - LANCASTER, CA
I would wait but based on a few things first. ...His age if he is young you may have to do some teaching first to see how well it picks up on things. If he is older then he should know by now.

How long have you dated.....don't rush to get married just so you can have sex.....(I did that in my first marriage)

Make sure you talking about sex, making love, and get all the test done. So you both feel comfortable talking about it and he will know what you like or dislike.

You have to be careful young men are going to the Dr. with ED problems so make sure all of his equipment works. Remember no returns after marriage.
Nia Prettyface
on 4/8/09 5:22 am, edited 4/8/09 5:30 am - Southern States, NC

I would get married without having had pre-marital sex and I HAVE. I had not been intimate with my husby prior to marriage.

I will add, I was quite specific in my supplication, prayer and appeal to the Lord regarding some attributes I knew I would not have access to until post-marriage. Tell da Lawd exactly whud chu want...
It does not mean you will get it, but He does answer prayer.

One can test drive a car prior to purchase or lease, and still get a lemon. There are no guarantees with anything. Marry someone for the sake of God and see what happens. It changes the entire appeal.

I can test drive a BMW and love it. I can also test drive a hoopty. And if the hoopty is good on gas, affordable, safe and has low mileage, it will be better for me. It may even be more reliable to get me to the house of worship.
Now...dat dere BMW on the other hand...It looks good. It takes up too much gas. And when it is time for congregational worship, I may get tempted to give a bunch of excuses for not moving it. "It is a gas guzzler...I just washed it and it is raining...I aint puttin' all dem miles on my ride..." With a good reliable hoopty, I wont care as much.
The physical part of the car is not what appeals to me. It is about how it fits into my life...much life my husby.

 

 It takes a lifetime for man to master the art of living, but living is much easier when he accepts God as his master. 



tshabazz1967
on 4/8/09 5:56 am

Thanks I really enjoyed that.

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on 4/8/09 7:05 am - NJ
And the church said... AMEN! 
Star Jones
on 4/8/09 8:55 am - National Harbor, MD
Loved that! Perfect explanation!

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Monique H.
on 4/8/09 5:26 am
I am trying to wait until marriage and for religious reasons. I can't say that I haven't slipped up. When we were going around some of those bases that were mentioned earlier we got a little carried away and before I knew it he had um slid into home base. There was a lot of praying and repenting on my part, but now I know how careful I must be and how far I can and can not take it.

Being someone that has to have it all the time if I'm with someone, I really hope God does hook me up with the one for me cause if someone one can't dust these cobwebs off correctly I'm going to be really hurt.
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(deactivated member)
on 4/8/09 5:43 am
Hell Naw! Well its not like I can married anyway..lol
~Sexy YaYa~
on 4/8/09 10:18 pm
    
~Sexy YaYa~
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on 4/8/09 6:59 am - Sweet Dreams lives in , PA
    
(deactivated member)
on 4/8/09 10:09 am - Sweet Dreams lives in , PA
Would you marry a person WITHOUT having had sex with them? YES...but I would need to know that there IS a penis present and it IS in working order,,,whatever happens after marriage...happens....man must be capable of intimacy.

Has anybody gotten married without having pre-marital sex? NO...only married once but there is a first time for everything.


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