Tell the truth about your relationship after wls

I agree that this is a great topic! 

My relationship with my partner has always been wonderful.  The sex has always been off the hook.  Since surgery, the lovin' has only gotten better and our sessions are considerably longer.

My son is a tad bit jealous, only because he's not losing as quickly as me.  He makes everything into a contest, but realizes there's no way he can compete given that I have a little help from my friends, Bari (my new stomach) and Soph (my loud esophagus). 

My other familial relationships are good too.  I live 1500 miles from my family; they have not seen me since surgery, but they're all very supportive from a distance.  I don't doubt that that will change because they love me for me, regardless.

On a down note, I've lost my BFF.  We were always FABULOUS big girls together.  Obviously, we can't ride or die like that anymore.  She's not handling it so well, but I'm keepin' on.  I have to do what's best for me, understanding that there may be casualties along the way. 

Hi Woo...I am sorry to hear about what with you and your BFF...I always wonder why people change when you are making better changes for yourself...Have you had a conversation with her and if so what was the outcome and/or reason.

She's always had issues with WLS - to the point of being angry about it - so when I told her about mine, she was very upset.  She tried to be supportive as best she could, but it was too hard for her.  And I needed and expected more from someone I call my BFF.  We agreed that we can no longer fill that role in each other's lives and agreed to just be 'friends'.  Sadly, I wouldn't even say we're that.  She never inquires about my progress.  We never see each other.  And our conversations are limited to small talk and are always strained... like, we both know what we're not talking about.

I took it really hard at first, but I know things/people/relationships change. 

I have 5 women that I would have as bridesmaids in my Walima (An islamic wedding with a twist)...And 3 of them are "big girls" and they are supportive and even motivated by what I did in their own way and my BFF (the slim one) was who suggested the surgery to me and she is about a 4-6...I would be devaststed if that happened to me and trust and believe you will meet others along the way that would support you in everything...

My Best friend is super skinny so I am worried about losing her. She makes comments like who going to be the plus size one out the group now... i have no plus size friends so this will be new to all my friends me being small

Great topic!

Well since we are being honest, my marriage is on the rocks right now and I think this surgery will push everything over the edge.  It will not solve whats wrong in my marriage.  In fact, I am counting on  it to help build my self esteem and give me the confidence to leave my situation.

So I am the opposite of everyone in the discussion right now. 

wow!!!

i have a long term bf and I am only 22 i am ready for us to part ways but he has been so supportive about the WLS but I am over him.

Umm which relationship you talking about?  I've been in 3 since I had surgery. 

Michelle you are funny.  I too am on my 3rd one since surgery but I have found my soul mate, so I am staying right here!!!  Finally....

It's funny because the two before him (where fillers) but holding on to them, almost made me miss my blessing.  I am so glad that I decided I deserved better, wanted better, waited for better and made the decision to accept better.

Thank GOD.....

I think I might have found my 'One'.  Like you I was busy filling time but I'm glad I took a little time to regroup and be by myself so I would clearly know what I was looking for.  I'm so glad I didn't let him pass me by.