Tell the truth about your relationship after wls

I am almost four months out and my marriage has seem to have gotten better since wls.  The $ex and communication is better.  I think I am just alot nicer now not so emotional.  I feel better so I act better.  So has your relationships changed for the better or worse since wls? Some of my relationships with family and friends have desolved but I chalk that up as a win for me.  They really did not want to be here if they stopped talking to me just because I had wls.  I know I am early out but I see a bright future health and relationship wise. 

Come on #1MM answer the question better or worse?

I know for a fact that my relationship has gotten 100000% stronger...I posted a topic in November regarding my fiance and all of this trouble and even questioning things and now at this point I cannot see my life without him...He is literally everything to me and vice versa...I just knew last year that by now we would not be together and I did not want children or anything...Now I am a completely changed woman when it comes to my man and he acts completely different towards me...He always loved my body and my mentallity but now he loves everything about me 3 times more....

Sounds like you have a great thing going.

Keep in mind HF summer is not here yet...lol...I hope that things remain this way but I will respect his thoughts and feelings and hope not to get out of order.

I feel you when my husband got with me eleven years ago I was hot to trot but I am reformed form my old ways so hopefully this will not be a problem.  I definitelu respect my husband and he does the same in return. 

Really a great topic!

I think in the beginning things were great.  he was happy to see me moving around again and finding myself.  He wanted me to live and enjoy life.  But lately I to be honest he seems a hair jealous and I am not sure what that is about.  I guess all i can say is I have a supportive partner and when you are in this process it helps when the partner has an outlet too to express what they are going through because you are not alone.  when we were in the states he would go to meeting with me now, he is burdened with my "secret" and doesn't have people to question or relate to.


~Maxine

Thank you for your very real answer.  I have discussed jealousy with my husband and we are both trying not to act in that way.  It is hard for me because my husband works in a field that is predominately women.  I know who he is coming home to but it does not help he is with women all day. LOL

I have to say I am not jealous of my husband.  He works in a office full of eligible women but like you said, I know who he is coming home to.  I do not see myself as anything above average.  However, he has become very jealous since we are closer to plastics and I think in all honesty if he had another man to speak with or just to know about whose wife has gone through this process and everything was ok he would be a little more comfortable.